Honestly, call me less of a man if you want but I never understood the appeal of the idea of watching someone you love being fucked by someone else or it being the other way around. I figured it was human nature to naturally and selfishly keep something desperately desired to one's self so why do some people feel the need to do something like this? I mean I'm genuinely asking to hear the point of view from someone who likes stuff like this, and not for some perverted reason of "its just hot" or "part of the fantasy". That's just a cop-out answer.
Well, I know a couple who do this (this way round) and she says what really turns her on is someone else finding *her* guy sexy. It almost gives her a power over the other girl - "you think he's a great fuck and he's mine" kind of thing. Seems odd to me since presumably he's less hers when he fucks someone else, but she doesn't seem to see it that way. I do wonder what would happen if he started seeing one of their playmates in the girlfriend role...
Also there's some voyeuristic people who are willing to trade a stake in their partner for the thrill of watching, and a few masochists who find it hot to be cheated on even if their higher-level mind dislikes it.
It's odd. My fiancee and I are info this kind of stuff. We a slightly different take on it, though. We're not into humiliation or being insulted/insulting about it, but we do enjoy the idea of "sharing".
Neither of us are a masochist as it doesn't bother us in the first place anymore. We just no longer fear anybody coming between us romantically. We've been together for 8 years now and we've both had a few other partners.
It was originally brought up by me having almost cheated on her, stopped by guilt. There was and is no doubt of my love for her, just hormones almost got the better of me. When I confessed this to her and showed her who it was, she was legitimately surprised that I didn't go for it (we both agreed that she was incredibly hot) and after a long talk, none of which in anger, she made me promise that if the opportunity with her or somebody that good looking arose again, that I'd take it.
And I did. As incredible as it was, I was still confused and slightly guilty feeling though. We talked more about it and she was the first to "just know" that nothing, certainly not "natural desires" and acting them out would come between us. She didn't change towards me, and the guilt faded. I soon came to a similar conclusion, but it was a while before anybody came along that she wanted to do anything with. I found myself excited more than jealous, and I told her that it was only fair that if she had the opportunity and she wanted it, then she should.
When the deed had finally been done, I pressed her for details. We both kinda lost our shit with lust during the telling, and had the best sex we'd ever had with each other. We cuddled and did our usual pillow talk, and then both got super lovey dovey, and it just destroyed any jealousy I had. Her heart was mine and I knew it, as she had already known the same about mine.
It became trivial after that. Now we both are into it and often come across people where we both agree that they would be good for one, the other, or both. But we both talk about who and why or why not.
That was something like 3 years ago. We live together now and things are great between us. We're both happier for it now. Still, it's strange how it all works. I suppose you just need a particular somebody for it to work well.
Men do it mostly becouse of hormones and lust so it's much safer to let a guy fuck a cuckcake. He won't feel attachment to her since he will appreciate his gf/wife even more. Hopefully at least. With women tho..it can be risky. They might develop strong feelings and leave
I guess the attraction can go one of two ways. The most straight forward one being that the cuck is a masochist and enjoys the emotional pain. Or they treat having an attractive partner in a similar way that a rich person views a luxury car. On its own it's amazing, but the real joy comes from flexing it in front of a bunch of jealous and only occasionally giving them a taste of what you can have at any time.At least that's the best way I can word it metaphorically.
Dude, this seriously isn't something that needs a super detailed answer. People just have their own set of kinks. Simple as that. Whether you like it or not, the "cop-out" answer IS the answer.
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Also there's some voyeuristic people who are willing to trade a stake in their partner for the thrill of watching, and a few masochists who find it hot to be cheated on even if their higher-level mind dislikes it.
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Neither of us are a masochist as it doesn't bother us in the first place anymore. We just no longer fear anybody coming between us romantically. We've been together for 8 years now and we've both had a few other partners.
It was originally brought up by me having almost cheated on her, stopped by guilt. There was and is no doubt of my love for her, just hormones almost got the better of me. When I confessed this to her and showed her who it was, she was legitimately surprised that I didn't go for it (we both agreed that she was incredibly hot) and after a long talk, none of which in anger, she made me promise that if the opportunity with her or somebody that good looking arose again, that I'd take it.
And I did. As incredible as it was, I was still confused and slightly guilty feeling though. We talked more about it and she was the first to "just know" that nothing, certainly not "natural desires" and acting them out would come between us. She didn't change towards me, and the guilt faded. I soon came to a similar conclusion, but it was a while before anybody came along that she wanted to do anything with. I found myself excited more than jealous, and I told her that it was only fair that if she had the opportunity and she wanted it, then she should.
When the deed had finally been done, I pressed her for details. We both kinda lost our shit with lust during the telling, and had the best sex we'd ever had with each other. We cuddled and did our usual pillow talk, and then both got super lovey dovey, and it just destroyed any jealousy I had. Her heart was mine and I knew it, as she had already known the same about mine.
It became trivial after that. Now we both are into it and often come across people where we both agree that they would be good for one, the other, or both. But we both talk about who and why or why not.
That was something like 3 years ago. We live together now and things are great between us. We're both happier for it now. Still, it's strange how it all works. I suppose you just need a particular somebody for it to work well.
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White women are literally the first cucks in recorded history.
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