LongForeskinLover said:

Tell me, does gay conversion therapy work? Being gay is not a kink but it's the same sort of way the brain works. You can not control what turns you on. Same way pedos can not just turn off liking children. Stop bullshitting OP and giving them false hope.

unkn0w33n said:
People can overcome a kink saying it's cuz my brain is like that is just bullshit.

Also being gay/bi has nothing to do with kinks.

Best example to compare it to would be those who quit smoking or drinking. Since it's just you teaching your brain to not reward you for drinking or smoking.

NESBoy said:
I just thought I'd bump this topic to see if I could get any more advice. I want this kink to be out of my head, or at least subdue it so then I'm not always thinking about it...

I think I should give a little more insight on the kink it's self. I'll admit...it's not just cucking, but rather...well...basically, it involves me impregnating someone in the RP, marrying them, then eventually having my fictional kid in the RP steal his mother away from me. I don't know why I think about it so much, nor do I know how I let it get this bad, but I thought about it once and ever since then I can't do any kind of breeding RP without thinking about it.

I'm basically begging for some help here! Because of this stupid thought, I can't do RPs with breeding, impregnating, pregnancy, and even marriage! It sucks because those are some of my favorite kinks and I like using them, but now when I use them I can't stop thinking about that stupid scenario! It's even ruined certain characters to RP with for me!

I just need to know if/how it's possible to make it so that I don't think about that kink when I do those kinks. Should I repress that thought, buring it deep in my mind? Or should I start using it a bunch, to the point where I become numb to it? I just need some answers and advice! It's been ruining RPs for me and my partner now for a couple of months! I want it out of my head! I don't know where else to go for this kind of help, so I'm hoping to find some useful advice here! Should I punish myself for thinking about it?

Ah, I'm sorry for getting into hysterics. That kink has been bothering me for so long now...prevented me from doing certain kinds of RPs...and I just don't wanna be horny for it anymore.

Crysanthium said:



The problem isn't that you have a kink, it's that you haven't accepted that it's a part of you and you keep anxiously focusing on it and belittling yourself over it.

When you parse the meaning of holy and evil and bad and good you can objectively assert that it's a subjective phenomenon and by that same metric you can deduce that changing your position shifts your alignment and therefore your problems

Crysanthium said:



The problem isn't that you have a kink, it's that you haven't accepted that it's a part of you and you keep anxiously focusing on it and belittling yourself over it.

When you parse the meaning of holy and evil and bad and good you can objectively assert that it's a subjective phenomenon and by that same metric you can deduce that changing your position shifts your alignment and therefore your problems

Crysanthium said:

I went on a bit of a tangent and I apologize, what I mean is that you can't outthink yourself. What you need to do is put yourself in a position physically where your priorities change.

In order to solve your problem, you need to no longer consider it a problem.

Put yourself in a place where you associate your kink with your turnoffs and slowly start considering your kink a turnoff too

Or better yet, stop considering your cuckold kink negative at all. The more you push back against it and hate yourself over it and loathe it, the more you'll enjoy it and the harder it'll be to think about anything else.

That makes you feel bad for no other reason than you wanting to feel bad about yourself

jltbl said:
Honestly as long as it's just fictionnal I don't see why this is a problem to you. I have some very sadistic fantasies and it doesn't bother me because I know I will never try any kinks that is too dangerous in real life. Like I have some rape fantasies but I would absolutely NEVER do anything without a girl's consent. Once again as long that nobody gets hurt in real, there shouldn't be any problem.

NESBoy said:


I suppose but, the problem here is that I don't want it to be a kink I focus on. I want it to go back to being a kink I didn't really think much about, seeing as my partner doesn't really like it and I don't really like thinking about it either.

Though, associating it as a turn-off could possibly work... Would all I need to do is simply tell myself that I don't like that kink when it comes up, and eventually I'll get over it?

Crysanthium said:


Well that's my point.

Either make it non-influential or positively influential.


Either turn it into a turn off by association, or turn it into something you don't feel guilty about when you think of it.

This doesn't have anything to do with your partner, this has to do with you.

If your partner doesn't like it, well, as long as you don't force it on them, than who cares?

You shouldn't need to lock out how you feel about something just because a person you care about feels differently.

I have a ton of things I enjoy thinking about and musing over that generally people around me either don't care about or are hardline against (I live with a serious trump supporter) but that doesn't make me feel guilty about thinking those things.


And if you need to indulge, do it, as long as you're in an open relationship. If you aren't, then just fantasize about it online, draw it, do what literally everyone else on this site does and look at pics.