Being full of themselves for sure, not taking care of themself (cleaning mostly) ... mmh ... not being able to put a sentence together without swearing too ...
The rest can be adjusted or get used to it with time
Your problem is that you are too "nice" and open to help people without a minimum of self respect and love for yourself.
It happened to me as well, but on the other side of the spectrum being a girl.
I once hand like 10-15 friends but the correct term to be used should be acquaintance.
You become without noticing the gal or guy who is always there, that they can depend upon, which means they don't need to care if you will be there anymore.
But once they find something else to care about, a girlfriend, a boyfriend, or anything else, you become a second though and if you don't work your ass to keep in touch, they disappear.
So here is a life lesson:
1) You are an idiot cause you gave away too much of yourself
2) You didn't lose anything important with such people, you are better off as you are.
3) You are a good person, you just need to put yourself a little more in front of the rest of the world ;)
The rest can be adjusted or get used to it with time
Vrg said:
there's only one thing I've learned with many girls that never went wrong.
Be at disposal.
I have this girl friend from 10 years now, loved her, helped her out with anyone she liked, even those I could not stand, she knew I liked her, can't blame her for not liking me back, it's either luck or not.
She hated me many times, she also hurt me many times, did many things, and call me a boring "nice guy" but I think of myself as someone who wasn't born to hurt, so I was always there, always went back to her when she needed it not matter what, because I knew she was just hard to deal with, no big deal.
So... people meet me, know me, use me all they need and then disappear back into their lives, probably getting interested in someone else they find better, got used to it.
I don't know what more to do to be sure Im not doing wrong, Im just at disposal, and if some day someone will want to keep me, I'll be happy, or else, i'll just wait for the next person to help.
But I guess the world have so much variety someone will find a reason to not like what I said either way, Im just sorry we disappoint you in so many ways ^_^
there's only one thing I've learned with many girls that never went wrong.
Be at disposal.
I have this girl friend from 10 years now, loved her, helped her out with anyone she liked, even those I could not stand, she knew I liked her, can't blame her for not liking me back, it's either luck or not.
She hated me many times, she also hurt me many times, did many things, and call me a boring "nice guy" but I think of myself as someone who wasn't born to hurt, so I was always there, always went back to her when she needed it not matter what, because I knew she was just hard to deal with, no big deal.
So... people meet me, know me, use me all they need and then disappear back into their lives, probably getting interested in someone else they find better, got used to it.
I don't know what more to do to be sure Im not doing wrong, Im just at disposal, and if some day someone will want to keep me, I'll be happy, or else, i'll just wait for the next person to help.
But I guess the world have so much variety someone will find a reason to not like what I said either way, Im just sorry we disappoint you in so many ways ^_^
Your problem is that you are too "nice" and open to help people without a minimum of self respect and love for yourself.
It happened to me as well, but on the other side of the spectrum being a girl.
I once hand like 10-15 friends but the correct term to be used should be acquaintance.
You become without noticing the gal or guy who is always there, that they can depend upon, which means they don't need to care if you will be there anymore.
But once they find something else to care about, a girlfriend, a boyfriend, or anything else, you become a second though and if you don't work your ass to keep in touch, they disappear.
So here is a life lesson:
1) You are an idiot cause you gave away too much of yourself
2) You didn't lose anything important with such people, you are better off as you are.
3) You are a good person, you just need to put yourself a little more in front of the rest of the world ;)
