justanotherguy222 said:
TheE said:
justanotherguy222 said:
Minette said:
The usual. Rude, entitled, racist, sexist, "nice guy" types, and people with a victim complex.
Alright, real question here, because no one can seem to give me a genuine response.
What the fuck is wrong with being a "nice guy?"
Go to r/niceguys and I think you will understand
Okay so memes aside...
I'm not that great at verbalizing shit, but I hope I can help. There's a more operative difference between being a guy that's nice, and a "nice guy".
"Nice guys" utilize the fact that they aren't overt assholes in the traditional sense to try and manipulate women into sleeping with them. Their "niceness" is little more than a tool by which they approach all their interactions with women, with the expectation that them not being an asshole in the traditional sense (traditional sense being the keywords there) will get them laid. Once that doesn't work, all niceness pretty much gets thrown away. On top of this, they usually will showboat their niceness and bemoan the universe for not awarding them the gift of Woman™ for managing to not be a dickhead, oblivious to the fact that not being a dickhead is...kind of average. That's expected of people.
The issue is not that they're nice, it's that they believe their niceness entitles them to women and sex, at which point they're no different than the assholes they so publicly bemoan.
Whereas guys who are nice are...just that. Their interactions with people aren't predicated on them getting something out of it. They don't expect their interactions with people to immediately grant them rewards for not being a dickhead.
tl;dr: "Nice guys" use niceness as a tool, and nothing else. Actual nice, decent people don't expect rewards for meeting the standard of basic human decency.