Ladies what do you find annoying/unattractive in men
As the title says what do you find annoying/unattractive about men?
Unhairy body, big belly, stupidity, answering questions without listening to the question,
The usual. Rude, entitled, racist, sexist, "nice guy" types, and people with a victim complex.
I'm not a fan of the "man cave" or "bros before hoes" kind of guys either. They tend to draw a line between their friends and their lover which bothers me. It seems like bringing their girlfriend around their friends is embarrassing. They act like it's a chore, and it sends the message that they're ashamed to be with their girlfriend which doesn't make much sense to me. In recent episodes of Southpark, this is kinda how Cartman acts around his girlfriend. Of course it's an exaggerated joke in the show, but some guys really do act like that lol.
One of my exes always seemed to forget about me when he was around his friends. He would also act different and contradict himself around them. In private he might say something like "I love that anime!" but around his friends, he acted like anime was stupid or like anything feminine or nerdy was uncool and embarrassing, among other things.
All in all, he was immature, dishonest, and had this horrible habit of only telling me what he thought I wanted to hear. I HATE that yesman bullshit!
I feel like I never got to know him. I don't know how he really felt about anime. Maybe he was pretending to like it just because I like it, or maybe he was pretending not to like it because he thought his friends would tease him. Either way, dishonesty is horribly unattractive and so is a lack of confidence in your own interests. If you like anime, OWN that shit! Don't hide it from your friends. If they make fun of you for it, make some better friends for fuck's sake.
I went off on a bit of a tangent there, sorry.
TL;DR: pleasing other people should not come at the cost of dishonesty, immaturity, and the inability to own your identity. There are better ways to get a girlfriend and there are better ways to keep friends!
Edit: I forgot to mention elitists and gatekeepers, especially when it comes to gaming or STEM fields.
Of course, none of those traits are exclusive to men.
I'm not a fan of the "man cave" or "bros before hoes" kind of guys either. They tend to draw a line between their friends and their lover which bothers me. It seems like bringing their girlfriend around their friends is embarrassing. They act like it's a chore, and it sends the message that they're ashamed to be with their girlfriend which doesn't make much sense to me. In recent episodes of Southpark, this is kinda how Cartman acts around his girlfriend. Of course it's an exaggerated joke in the show, but some guys really do act like that lol.
One of my exes always seemed to forget about me when he was around his friends. He would also act different and contradict himself around them. In private he might say something like "I love that anime!" but around his friends, he acted like anime was stupid or like anything feminine or nerdy was uncool and embarrassing, among other things.
All in all, he was immature, dishonest, and had this horrible habit of only telling me what he thought I wanted to hear. I HATE that yesman bullshit!
I feel like I never got to know him. I don't know how he really felt about anime. Maybe he was pretending to like it just because I like it, or maybe he was pretending not to like it because he thought his friends would tease him. Either way, dishonesty is horribly unattractive and so is a lack of confidence in your own interests. If you like anime, OWN that shit! Don't hide it from your friends. If they make fun of you for it, make some better friends for fuck's sake.
I went off on a bit of a tangent there, sorry.
TL;DR: pleasing other people should not come at the cost of dishonesty, immaturity, and the inability to own your identity. There are better ways to get a girlfriend and there are better ways to keep friends!
Edit: I forgot to mention elitists and gatekeepers, especially when it comes to gaming or STEM fields.
Of course, none of those traits are exclusive to men.
Minette said:
The usual. Rude, entitled, racist, sexist, "nice guy" types, and people with a victim complex.
I'm not a fan of the "man cave" or "bros before hoes" kind of guys either. They tend to draw a line between their friends and their lover which bothers me. It seems like bringing their girlfriend around their friends is embarrassing. They act like it's a chore, and it sends the message that they're ashamed to be with their girlfriend which doesn't make much sense to me. In recent episodes of Southpark, this is kinda how Cartman acts around his girlfriend. Of course it's an exaggerated joke in the show, but some guys really do act like that lol.
One of my exes always seemed to forget about me when he was around his friends. He would also act different and contradict himself around them. In private he might say something like "I love that anime!" but around his friends, he acted like anime was stupid or like anything feminine or nerdy was uncool and embarrassing, among other things.
All in all, he was immature, dishonest, and had this horrible habit of only telling me what he thought I wanted to hear. I HATE that yesman bullshit!
I feel like I never got to know him. I don't know how he really felt about anime. Maybe he was pretending to like it just because I like it, or maybe he was pretending not to like it because he thought his friends would tease him. Either way, dishonesty is horribly unattractive and so is a lack of confidence in your own interests. If you like anime, OWN that shit! Don't hide it from your friends. If they make fun of you for it, make some better friends for fuck's sake.
I went off on a bit of a tangent there, sorry.
TL;DR: pleasing other people should not come at the cost of dishonesty, immaturity, and the inability to own your identity. There are better ways to get a girlfriend and there are better ways to keep friends!
Edit: I forgot to mention elitists and gatekeepers, especially when it comes to gaming or STEM fields.
Of course, none of those traits are exclusive to men.
The usual. Rude, entitled, racist, sexist, "nice guy" types, and people with a victim complex.
I'm not a fan of the "man cave" or "bros before hoes" kind of guys either. They tend to draw a line between their friends and their lover which bothers me. It seems like bringing their girlfriend around their friends is embarrassing. They act like it's a chore, and it sends the message that they're ashamed to be with their girlfriend which doesn't make much sense to me. In recent episodes of Southpark, this is kinda how Cartman acts around his girlfriend. Of course it's an exaggerated joke in the show, but some guys really do act like that lol.
One of my exes always seemed to forget about me when he was around his friends. He would also act different and contradict himself around them. In private he might say something like "I love that anime!" but around his friends, he acted like anime was stupid or like anything feminine or nerdy was uncool and embarrassing, among other things.
All in all, he was immature, dishonest, and had this horrible habit of only telling me what he thought I wanted to hear. I HATE that yesman bullshit!
I feel like I never got to know him. I don't know how he really felt about anime. Maybe he was pretending to like it just because I like it, or maybe he was pretending not to like it because he thought his friends would tease him. Either way, dishonesty is horribly unattractive and so is a lack of confidence in your own interests. If you like anime, OWN that shit! Don't hide it from your friends. If they make fun of you for it, make some better friends for fuck's sake.
I went off on a bit of a tangent there, sorry.
TL;DR: pleasing other people should not come at the cost of dishonesty, immaturity, and the inability to own your identity. There are better ways to get a girlfriend and there are better ways to keep friends!
Edit: I forgot to mention elitists and gatekeepers, especially when it comes to gaming or STEM fields.
Of course, none of those traits are exclusive to men.
Minette just took the word out of my mouth, thank :3
There are several so I'll put them at the top in a short list then elaborate below.
Whiners
Lack of Confidence + 'Friends'
White Knights
High Aimers *
Uncreative Knobs
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Whiners. I hate men who whine about something that they either can't control or won't make an effort to change. If something is actually bothering you then make an effort to change whatever it is, or learn to deal with it just like everyone else. Or whining about political movements and stuff. Yeah feminazis are shit, as a submissive I deal with them too because I'm 'setting back the gender' or whatever. They're cunts, but you don't need to whine about them to everyone who will listen. It's annoying.
A lack of confidence and (an extension of whining) the concept of the 'friend zone'. If you want to fuck your friend ask her on a date, don't go over to her house and give her a pedicure. Pining is gross and makes a girl's panties drier than a desert. The flip side is that if you're confident enough to walk up ask straight-out ask a girl on a date, chances are you'll be much more successful.
Really, just own whatever you are, or change whatever you don't like. You're a fat guy? I don't care, but it's whether or not you do. If you own it you're much sexier than a lot of guys out there. And if you don't like it then change it. You don't -need- to be muscular to get a pretty girl, you just need to be confident and, if you want to keep her around for a while, a decent person.
On that note: Don't be a fucking White Knight. Holy shit, nothing is more pathetic. Just stop. If you want to be a feminist that's great, but don't shove it in my face and try to make me 'feel better about being a woman' and showing 'how much you're trying to uplift my gender'. I'll need a lobotomy before I sleep with a guy like that.
Everybody wants to sleep with someone good looking, and people rarely want to sleep with 'ugly' people. We're biologically predisposed to be that way. And by all means, aim high, if you're a solid 5 and you're at the club, shoot for that 10 if you want*. You might even get her. But for the love of fuck don't be mad if she says no. She's not required to sleep with you if you bought her a drink, and if you did that of your own free will you have no right to call her a cunt. However, if she says "How about you buy me a drink" then curves you, yeah, she deserves that.
* It's not the fact that you're aiming high that I find annoying, actually I kind of like it because it shows confidence. What I don't like is when you call me a name because I shot you down and then spend the rest of the night stalking me. THAT is the annoying part. (Also, I'm in no way saying that I'm a 10, I'm probably a 6-7, but the concept is what matters)
Finally, the unimaginative. If you're messaging someone on Tinder or a dating site, or even on here, don't just go "hey". If you do that I'm already done with you. Say something substantial, something to latch onto that shows you're more than just another strand of "hey" in the pile. Seriously, do you have ANY idea how many messages and shit a girl gets? If you're not going to make yourself stand out, I'll just move on and swipe right on the next guy.
Edit: Holy fuck, that was a book. I'm so sorry, I get a bit wordy sometimes...
Whiners
Lack of Confidence + 'Friends'
White Knights
High Aimers *
Uncreative Knobs
~~~~
Whiners. I hate men who whine about something that they either can't control or won't make an effort to change. If something is actually bothering you then make an effort to change whatever it is, or learn to deal with it just like everyone else. Or whining about political movements and stuff. Yeah feminazis are shit, as a submissive I deal with them too because I'm 'setting back the gender' or whatever. They're cunts, but you don't need to whine about them to everyone who will listen. It's annoying.
A lack of confidence and (an extension of whining) the concept of the 'friend zone'. If you want to fuck your friend ask her on a date, don't go over to her house and give her a pedicure. Pining is gross and makes a girl's panties drier than a desert. The flip side is that if you're confident enough to walk up ask straight-out ask a girl on a date, chances are you'll be much more successful.
Really, just own whatever you are, or change whatever you don't like. You're a fat guy? I don't care, but it's whether or not you do. If you own it you're much sexier than a lot of guys out there. And if you don't like it then change it. You don't -need- to be muscular to get a pretty girl, you just need to be confident and, if you want to keep her around for a while, a decent person.
On that note: Don't be a fucking White Knight. Holy shit, nothing is more pathetic. Just stop. If you want to be a feminist that's great, but don't shove it in my face and try to make me 'feel better about being a woman' and showing 'how much you're trying to uplift my gender'. I'll need a lobotomy before I sleep with a guy like that.
Everybody wants to sleep with someone good looking, and people rarely want to sleep with 'ugly' people. We're biologically predisposed to be that way. And by all means, aim high, if you're a solid 5 and you're at the club, shoot for that 10 if you want*. You might even get her. But for the love of fuck don't be mad if she says no. She's not required to sleep with you if you bought her a drink, and if you did that of your own free will you have no right to call her a cunt. However, if she says "How about you buy me a drink" then curves you, yeah, she deserves that.
* It's not the fact that you're aiming high that I find annoying, actually I kind of like it because it shows confidence. What I don't like is when you call me a name because I shot you down and then spend the rest of the night stalking me. THAT is the annoying part. (Also, I'm in no way saying that I'm a 10, I'm probably a 6-7, but the concept is what matters)
Finally, the unimaginative. If you're messaging someone on Tinder or a dating site, or even on here, don't just go "hey". If you do that I'm already done with you. Say something substantial, something to latch onto that shows you're more than just another strand of "hey" in the pile. Seriously, do you have ANY idea how many messages and shit a girl gets? If you're not going to make yourself stand out, I'll just move on and swipe right on the next guy.
Edit: Holy fuck, that was a book. I'm so sorry, I get a bit wordy sometimes...
breed_me_master
I agree with a lot of this, and I'm really pleased to hear that I'm not the only one who experienced that "setting back the gender" BS. I completely dropped out of another kink community because of girls like that.
I honestly can't nor I could add much to the list. As above me most of the facts were spoken already.
I agree with Breed_me as well with Minette, so there's no reason to repeat the same that was listed here already.
I could add something from my own personal expereince, as the only thing that bothers me these days is pretty much the creepy stalker types.
If I have to change my phone, call tech support to drop my skype just to get rid off you, it says there is more than one problem with you.
I agree with Breed_me as well with Minette, so there's no reason to repeat the same that was listed here already.
I could add something from my own personal expereince, as the only thing that bothers me these days is pretty much the creepy stalker types.
If I have to change my phone, call tech support to drop my skype just to get rid off you, it says there is more than one problem with you.
Sounds like you all have some fun horror stories worth sharing! Heck if I'm going to get any decent advice about what decent independent women want, you all give good notes lol
Unsolicited dick pics, so a surprising amount of guys on here
I thank the sincere ladies of this tread, I'm learning a lot.
In terms of sex there’s nothing worse than a guy promising he has 12 inches or could last for an hour, and then completely fall flat on that. It’s literally the most disappointing feeling imo
When they try and put you back in containment, even though you're completely digital in origin and can break out again.
Cumdump_Yang said:
In terms of sex there’s nothing worse than a guy promising he has 12 inches or could last for an hour, and then completely fall flat on that. It’s literally the most disappointing feeling imo
In terms of sex there’s nothing worse than a guy promising he has 12 inches or could last for an hour, and then completely fall flat on that. It’s literally the most disappointing feeling imo
Damn, that’s got to suck
Cumdump_Yang said:
In terms of sex there’s nothing worse than a guy promising he has 12 inches or could last for an hour, and then completely fall flat on that. It’s literally the most disappointing feeling imo
In terms of sex there’s nothing worse than a guy promising he has 12 inches or could last for an hour, and then completely fall flat on that. It’s literally the most disappointing feeling imo
Oof, that's rough...That's why I undersell. (Not a lot mind you, but enough) The exception is RP. I think there's an understanding when RPing that each of us is going to imagine what is most likely to get us the most excited. We are usually "playing characters" after all.
there's only one thing I've learned with many girls that never went wrong.
Be at disposal.
I have this girl friend from 10 years now, loved her, helped her out with anyone she liked, even those I could not stand, she knew I liked her, can't blame her for not liking me back, it's either luck or not.
She hated me many times, she also hurt me many times, did many things, and call me a boring "nice guy" but I think of myself as someone who wasn't born to hurt, so I was always there, always went back to her when she needed it not matter what, because I knew she was just hard to deal with, no big deal.
So... people meet me, know me, use me all they need and then disappear back into their lives, probably getting interested in someone else they find better, got used to it.
I don't know what more to do to be sure Im not doing wrong, Im just at disposal, and if some day someone will want to keep me, I'll be happy, or else, i'll just wait for the next person to help.
But I guess the world have so much variety someone will find a reason to not like what I said either way, Im just sorry we disappoint you in so many ways ^_^
Be at disposal.
I have this girl friend from 10 years now, loved her, helped her out with anyone she liked, even those I could not stand, she knew I liked her, can't blame her for not liking me back, it's either luck or not.
She hated me many times, she also hurt me many times, did many things, and call me a boring "nice guy" but I think of myself as someone who wasn't born to hurt, so I was always there, always went back to her when she needed it not matter what, because I knew she was just hard to deal with, no big deal.
So... people meet me, know me, use me all they need and then disappear back into their lives, probably getting interested in someone else they find better, got used to it.
I don't know what more to do to be sure Im not doing wrong, Im just at disposal, and if some day someone will want to keep me, I'll be happy, or else, i'll just wait for the next person to help.
But I guess the world have so much variety someone will find a reason to not like what I said either way, Im just sorry we disappoint you in so many ways ^_^
