Forgive me if the title is clickbaity in any way, i just didnt know how to summarize what i wanted to discuss very well.

I find myself having a few “extreme” (not taboo, just weird) kinks, but i dont really enjoy them in the traditional sense and thus most of the content of said kink just does not appeal to me.

For example, i really like feederism, but only if the act of eating something is erotic to them. I do not actually look at it for the weight gain, and actively find content that only focuses on the weight aspect without any outward horniness or desperation in consuming itself or toward their gaining weight extremely boring.

However, that is kind of what the kink is supposed to be, people becoming really fat by eating a lot. Which always leaves me dubious on if i actually am Into it or if im only into certain aspects of it that appeal to me. This is kind of a silly argument, the human opinion is nuanced so of course the enjoyment of kinks will be too, but the thought just keeps nagging at my mind.

Of course i can keep talking to myself in circles like this forever, so im curious to know your thoughts on this topic and if you relate in any way with kinks of your own?

I feel exactly this same way about many many kinks and ironically feederism specifically as well, I do also enjoy the weight gain on the side but the hottest aspect is definitely the enjoyment of the act of eating in itself.. I find that in this case the weight gain is just a "side effect" since most feedees enjoy the act of eating more than the weight gain.

Oh interesting, thank you for your input!! I also do like the weight gain in more realistic moderation, though often its hard to enjoy when the feedee just reacts kind of straight-faced to it. I didnt actually know that feedees were more into the actual eating aspect, loathe as i am to say it im pretty bad at finding fetish spaces and seeing how they feel about things and interpret their kink, so i really appreciate the insight!

I hate that as well, it's sadly the most common facial expressions amongst "feederism" artists (which is definitely a shame). I'm in many feederism communities online and yes, most of the fetish is about how good it feels when feeders eat (and also when they gain weight). I'm glad to have found more feeders here! And no problem!:))

I am secretly (not anymore i guess) into feederism actually, and i get your points... I like the general interactions between feeder and eater. There's a lot to explore when you think about the whole idea of giving (or forcefully pushing) something to the other person and the person slowly getting into the process. Doesn't it sound exactly like sex, i mean?

As for the whole topic in general i really like the idea of rubbing and pushing partners bodies against each other, with grinding dry humping and stuff. No penetration or anything just the gap between people tightening as much as possible. I only see stuff focused on people purely grinding their lower half which is cool i guess but not what im in for. I know, i'm very complex in terms of what makes me horny and in this world that has a destinct standart what is or isn't sex/sexy, finding somewhat decent stuff for me is hard.

Youre right, it does!! I agree, the process of the feedee becoming hornier and hornier about it sounds really good..


This sounds hot also.. though thats definitely helped by me already being very into any kind of dry humping. I get it though, it must be tough when it gets that specific. Thank you for sharing! And i hope some good content that hits you the right way finds you :)

i am into something you could describe as ass worship, but i really like very certain aspect of it. so i think thats normal. i'm not even sure what name of my fetish is

also i can relate to the part where somebody in replies said "no penetration or anything". i rarely see anyone not being into it, like me

It's just that the less there is, the more intriguing it gets.

damn i didn’t know there were other folks like me ?? who like the idea of partners feeding partners but NOT necessarily the exaggerated weight gain ?? cuz yeah i would like to fatten up a good boy or girl who needs it, but i’m not looking for hypergrowth bellies



wrow yeah COSIGNED.. the sexual tension gets so unbearable... i can literally come away after pushing flush against someone else, masturbate, and orgasm harder than if i just played around at arm’s reach

I relate with a lot of the kinks I have, they’re very specific and usually not align with what ppl in the communities are into so it’s hard for me to find people who I can share it with and relate to.

I like some form of (milder) feederism but on the recieving end ive noticed, like if the person who does it finds it really erotic and involves it with sexual stuff but I don’t like to gain weight. I do enjoy some of the being stuffed parts tho… but yeah that’s what I mean it is a very specific scenario that is hard for me to explain. I get what you mean though!

I have periods were i get a bit chubbier and usually it’s when i have a lot of studies and cant go out to move around as much and with the right person i would enjoy having them gush about it and tease me. Tbh if they liked it It would help me feel less selfconscious

This is kinda similar with me and ABDL/infantilism. I generally like it because I like the prospect of being taken care of by someone stronger, kinda making up for a lost childhood in a way. The diaper thing completes the look, but I hate scat in general. Omorashi is a MAYBE, but even then I just think it’s the brainless enjoyment aspect.

I can kinda relate, i have a little curiousity but i dont want any age regression or ageplay, i mostly like in puppyplay setting too

I personally wouldn't find it hot but the way you phrase it make it sound adorable.

Thank you for the consideration of myself being adorable.

you're welcome