Rule 34 - Do you think porn had ruined real life experiences?

Domgal62

12/21/23 04:59PM

Do you think porn had ruined real life experiences?

I’m asking this because the amount of people with favourites that are just busty girls with giant boobs are plentiful and well that’s just not something you’ll see in real life. Personally I’m just off put by unrealistic portrayals of the human body and wondering if being into that has ruined the attraction you feel for normal woman?

And that’s just taking into account the physical looks but also mental stuff, like has it lead you to just see woman as objects (cuz trust me I’ve experienced enough men this site that do even if they don’t think so) or other stuff, I’m just interested in what people think of the ways porn has changed their lives

Nastytalker

12/21/23 05:10PM

Not at all. Women in porn are fantasies, an unobtainable dream, of sorts. Realistically, I’m just as attracted to the women I see on a daily basis.

girlygutz

12/21/23 05:17PM

honestly yeah! the way porn has rotted people's brains is really unfortunate and almost sickening. sometimes you see comments that are like 'lol that's a really small dick' when the art above shows a perfectly average sized dick? 8'' cocks aren't the majority and i believe can definitely hurt more than they cause pleasure if you own a vagina.
there's also the fact that there are a lot of studies showing that porn can lead SOME men begin seeing women as nothing more than sexual objects and are more likely to engage in sexually aggressive behavior. you can also find online a lot of women talking about being slapped across the face, being verbally degraded and even choked WITHOUT their consent whatsoever.
and that's only talking about drawn or animated porn... websites like pornhub (involving actors i mean) are known for being breeding grounds for sex trafficking. it's awful.
all in all porn has really fucked up society and brains and while it's a very interesting topic to discuss it's also a very depressing one :(

FemboyWoody

12/21/23 05:57PM

I would not say it necessarily ruined it but it can contribute to sexist attitudes

Pornography is meant to represent a fantasy. If it was real, we would not be having women with D-cup sizes minimum and men with 8"/20cm penises as the standard in such works.

That said, I do agree with girlygutz in that it can contribute to body image perceptions and sexist attitudes. I feel that men like the Tate brothers are just a microcosm of the wider problem. Men and even women get shamed for having small penis/breast sizes when the average is lower than a 8" or 20 cm/d-cup (even by normally progressive people, mind you) and too many feel inadequate, having to resort to plastic surgery just for a sense of "normalcy".

Way too many men have sexist attitudes and while porn may not have caused it, it has made it worse by reinforcing machismo (e.g: "See!? She likes being raped!").

Domgal62

12/21/23 06:05PM

Nastytalker said:
Not at all. Women in porn are fantasies, an unobtainable dream, of sorts. Realistically, I’m just as attracted to the women I see on a daily basis.

Do you not think of it as a problem to be attracted to an impossible? I mean even if your tell yourself it’s unrealistic. Subconsciously your always gonna look for that

CuteDom81

12/21/23 06:14PM

Oh another thing I’d like to add! How some people will start seeing porn as the norm. There are definitely a lot of.. below average intelligence individuals that when they just see something enough even if it is just porn will think that’s the norm. Honestly anyone that speaks (and believes) in absolute statements like “woman love dominate men” are just… not able to really visualize woman as individuals and rather see them all as the same and of course that’s not just porn but int all sorts of media but I’ve seen a lot of men even in these forum going on about “woman are blah blah” which I’m 80% sure it’s just them seeing people like Andrew tate and then believing him cuz they’ve met one or two people that line up with what they talk about. Ya know confirmation bias

And personally the amount of times I’ve been sexualized and had assumptions made about me just because I’m dominant woman disgusts me. People will come into my mail calling me mommy or mistress without even asking for permission or if it’s something I enjoy just because they’ve seen it in porn. Where they just wanna treat me like an object, I hate subs that are into “worshiping” because from my experience they just see me as a fantasy and not a person.. which like I am on a porn site but still. At least I’m able to choose who I interact with

anti_megumin

12/21/23 06:25PM

In a way, yeah. But i don't regret anything

Break-me

12/21/23 06:43PM

Na! I'm able to differentiate fiction and reality

durr.lee44

12/21/23 07:07PM

Porn hasn't ruined my life. My older sister was a bad role model for me growing up, and I'm just nervous to talk to people sometimes.

girlygutz

12/21/23 07:09PM

CuteDom81 said:
Oh another thing I’d like to add! How some people will start seeing porn as the norm. There are definitely a lot of.. below average intelligence individuals that when they just see something enough even if it is just porn will think that’s the norm. Honestly anyone that speaks (and believes) in absolute statements like “woman love dominate men” are just… not able to really visualize woman as individuals and rather see them all as the same and of course that’s not just porn but int all sorts of media but I’ve seen a lot of men even in these forum going on about “woman are blah blah” which I’m 80% sure it’s just them seeing people like Andrew tate and then believing him cuz they’ve met one or two people that line up with what they talk about. Ya know confirmation bias

And personally the amount of times I’ve been sexualized and had assumptions made about me just because I’m dominant woman disgusts me. People will come into my mail calling me mommy or mistress without even asking for permission or if it’s something I enjoy just because they’ve seen it in porn. Where they just wanna treat me like an object, I hate subs that are into “worshiping” because from my experience they just see me as a fantasy and not a person.. which like I am on a porn site but still. At least I’m able to choose who I interact with

oh my god that last part im so sorry for you :(( yeah unfortunately i feel like the sentiment of feeling more as a tool to project their fantasies onto rather than an actual other human being is shared by a lot of people.
some time ago i saw a post on r/bdsm on reddit i believe?? about a woman telling how her experience with bdsm wasn't nearly as 'empowering' as people described it to her because the majority of subs she was with really just projected whatever they saw in porn onto her and didn't bother to do anything else. it's really awful how this apparently seems to be a common experience with dominant women. again, so sorry this happened to you, and i hope you won't have to deal with these people anytime soon :((

CuteDom81

12/21/23 07:12PM

girlygutz said:

oh my god that last part im so sorry for you :(( yeah unfortunately i feel like the sentiment of feeling more as a tool to project their fantasies onto rather than an actual other human being is shared by a lot of people.
some time ago i saw a post on r/bdsm on reddit i believe?? about a woman telling how her experience with bdsm wasn't nearly as 'empowering' as people described it to her because the majority of subs she was with really just projected whatever they saw in porn onto her and didn't bother to do anything else. it's really awful how this apparently seems to be a common experience with dominant women. again, so sorry this happened to you, and i hope you won't have to deal with these people anytime soon :((

Omg yeah!! That is actually a super good description of it but it’s not a big deal hun~ I’m super good at reading people in general so I don’t let those interactions go very far and they don’t effect me a whole lot. I am just glad I’m able to differentiate those people and wish more people had those skills so they don’t waste their time and end up feeling worse

But yeah just look up the tag femdom and anyone could understand what it feels like. Most of it is made for the men with no regard to how the woman in that picture feels

OfficeFox

12/21/23 07:16PM

I'm sorry but if you're that upset about getting unwanted DMs that's just a you problem. I get tons of harassing, demeaning messages whenever I post anything horny on here, but I don't whine all day about it or let it stop me from posting do I? They're just faceless trolls I can easily ignore, after all

CuteDom81

12/21/23 07:16PM

OfficeFox said:
I'm sorry but if you're that upset about getting unwanted DMs that's just a you problem. I get tons of harassing, demeaning messages whenever I post anything horny on here, but I don't let it stop me do I? They're just faceless trolls I can easily ignore, after all

Victim blaming 101

CuteDom81

12/21/23 07:18PM

And you obviously don’t understand the discussion we’re having here. It’s not just about dms from people. It’s how people treat you and this goes beyond the realm of r34

Also just something I was adding to the discussion, it’s not that it bothers me, it’s that it happens and why I think it happens. At most it’s something I find gross. What can I not say that I find something gross and disrespectful without having someone like you for some reason take offence and try to tell me it’s a me problem when I never made it a problem just a point in a discussion? Like where the hell do you seen me be bothered by that enough to try and tell me off? Like what gives you the idea that you need to add such a useless comment?

OfficeFox

12/21/23 07:51PM

CuteDom81 said:
And you obviously don’t understand the discussion we’re having here. It’s not just about dms from people. It’s how people treat you and this goes beyond the realm of r34

Also just something I was adding to the discussion, it’s not that it bothers me, it’s that it happens and why I think it happens. At most it’s something I find gross. What can I not say that I find something gross and disrespectful without having someone like you for some reason take offence and try to tell me it’s a me problem when I never made it a problem just a point in a discussion? Like where the hell do you seen me be bothered by that enough to try and tell me off? Like what gives you the idea that you need to add such a useless comment?

You definitely seemed quite upset about it in your initial post lol don't go projecting this onto me

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