I saw so many people in this forum that have sex partners (especially some of thier partner have unique fetish and kinks like themselves).

How do you guys find or meet your partners?

Grindr, or Sniffies

*Following*

i really dont. iam like here are sooooo many girls into fat men, but i never once met someone irl who thought the same. Even in my youth were i was slim and not ugly at all, couldnt find anyone. it surely must be nice having a sex partner that shares a big imagination of kinks and stuff.

PLEASE stop with the constant self pity. THAT is why girls aren't interested. I'm overweight myself, but I just double down on it since I'm a chef. Show them some of my cooking skills. That's how I won over my last several partners. The problem isn't your weight or appearance, it's you getting hung up on it and not working on your strengths.

Yea bitches don't like guys who don't like themselves. They sense it from a mile away

There are tons of dipshit fuckboy cunts out there who nonetheless love themselves and bitches flock to them like candy

Confidence goes so far for hoes you got no clue bru

It's really like some of us are tagged since birth with "do not interact with" on dating sites and/or on the internet in general, given that nobody interact with some of us on such sites, even though they interact with others that look just like us appearance/size wise.

You don't think personality is a factor?

I've been married to my primary sex partner for more than 20 years. Others are met through online apps like Tinder, Whisper, and MeetMe, or through friends and co-workers.

I've seen other guys with a perfect copy of my personality or even more autism asperger self pity worse get laid as easily as asking any random girl on the street/on a dating site the simple question "hey! wanna fuck?"

Though i guess its possible that when other students in grade school sees someone who differ from the masses in some way, they spread the word not only within that school, but in the whole city/state/country/world to watch out for that person as if all photos that person uploads automatically has a big "DNI" stamp all over them.

You know, I didn't think this thread would get instantly sent down the "Oh, dating's too hard for me" path like this. I thought it'd take more time than this. First step to finding love, love and respect yourself, people will see that and be interested in a person who can care for themselves. If you need validation from another person, and you get into a relationship with that mindset, it won't last long or you get into a destructive environment for the both of you.

You're either underselling their personality or overselling your own. If you were truly identical then it would be no issue for you.

And I get it. It's very easy to hide under a cover of self doubt and pity. I've been there. A lot of people have. But you need to realize that your attitude isn't a symptom of a larger problem, it IS the problem.

By convincing yourself the battie is already lost, you give yourself permission not to change things.

I used to have pretty good luck on craigslist back in the day. It was different then, lots of people looking to hook up. Now it's mostly just guys looking for down low action. I'm just not into that. I haven't found a good partner since 2017.

I'm also one of those guys with low self esteem and gloomy overall. I also recognize I'm not considered attractive to most people. I don't think I look too bad when I look at myself in the mirror. But I don't like the concept of having to change myself to be more likable. I'd just be pretending to be someone else in order to get others to like me. I don't like knowing that others think they know who I am based on the person I act as to fit in. I hide who I truly am, because most people won't like who I really am inside. Maybe one day I will find someone who truly sees me as I am. But I'm not holding my breath on that.

That's the neat part: I don't.
I've seen so many girls on here into "Fat Buff/Dad Bod"
But unfortunate none IRL.
I was a social outcast, really. Not willingly, mind you.
I tried to interact with people, but I'd get pushed away or ignored.
All for my "Unsavory Appearance".
I know I'm an Ugly Bastard, but I just don't like how I get constantly reminded.
But I guess when you look like a Big Brutish Barbarian, you get treated like one.

Man, some people fucking stink. Most of them do.
I just haven't gotten lucky enough to find one that doesn't.

They're actually using an advanced technique called LYING