Well, made this post because I've been using tinder for like 6 years, with literally 0 matches with people untill two weeks ago. And my experience with it was not good. I probably just want to vent up a bit, while my hopes in humanity gets even lower, but here I go.

A girl from my town and I got a match a couple of weeks ago, we started chatting there, like a normal chat, trying to get to known each other a bit. A bit of tease and I asked her to go one day to have lunch together. Everything normal untill this sunday she told me she was horny and was hoping to meet me on monday (yesterday), so we settled up a meeting in an ice cream shop, to have an ice cream, have dinner later and maybe something happens after that.

She was hurrying me to go there and asking me, "where are you? I don't see you" and as I arrived at the ice cream shop I messaged her back I was in front of it. She went silent, 10 minutes, 20, 45 minutes... I was waiting there, pretty nervous untill my best friend who knew about my meeting asked me how it was going, told him that she didn't appear and he came, picked me up and we went to have dinner together.

We both were wondering if she didn't like myself when she saw me in person and left before reaching the ice cream shop... or idk, maybe she couldn't meet me and something happened to her, untill at the middle of the dinner with my friend, I recieve a message back from her profile "Hahaha fuck you I got a cock and my cock's bigger than you loser, bye". Blocked the profile and reported it afterwards.

It was a fucking guy, that just wanted to troll me and kept talking to me for two weeks before that. It's like, what the fuck is wrong, why would anyone spend two weeks chatting just to trol? Doesn't people have anything better to do? If he tryed to steal something from me or get something from me I would even understand that he spends like two weeks talking to me to take some profit... but the only thing he managed to do is to make me and my best friend go to have dinner together lmao.

But well. Fuck it, I mean, I had enough.
I am lonely, quite ugly irl, more fat than fit and not very sociable irl and the only place I was still hoping to get something one day, just fucking depressed me. So fuck it, uninstalled tinder and any other dating app I had in my phone and probably won't install them anymore.

Does anyone had any experience like this? Be it on tinder or any other dating app.
Sorry for the rant bros and girls haha, but needed to explode somewhere.

I usually throw tinder into a fire before any of that happens.

Maybe it was a girl, just not a mentally stable one. I really don't see a guy trolling you for two weeks just for that conclusion, but who knows, maybe I'm giving humanity too much credit.

I don't have any credit left for humanity anymore, but yeah.

I think you do give humanity too much credit. I don't want to write here too much bad stuff but with how people like to lie and be asshole to other people it's quite miracle dating apps do work at all.

But going back to topic. I'm really sad to hear you had to go through such thing. I thought about using dating apps but after your story and many others I doubt it's good idea. I wish you all the best in your life and that you will be able to find happiness. I'm glad you could spend some nice time with friend.

Having dinner was at least nice haha, we have to look at the bright side of the things at least

tinder in general is not worth it imho, you never know what people are on there for and it’s sometimes hard to ask. it’s no secret that it’s a place for hooking up but some people just want a relationship or friends and 90% of the time they don’t specify that. sometimes i myself didn’t know what i wanted by using it so i ended up just getting rid of the app it was a waste of time.

Been using Tinder, Bumble and Hinge dating apps, even used subscription for exposure, get few matches and even fewer interactions and only a couple meet ups.

Overall, you're better off not using the app as it's basically wasting your time from being productive.

Living in a sparsely populated part of the country where women my age tend to be married with kids already, the only thing I get out of dating apps is seeing how many hundreds of miles I'd have to move to find anyone remotely appealing.

Dating apps are bad for everyone. Don't let them define your worth.

I just got back on tinder if anything happens

i did have few matches but they unmatch after they see my picture so I was like don't give a sh-t keep going and going until I found one, I can tell that most peoples in California get the most matches.

I did met four or five girls off okcupid and yea I did had sex with them few year we broke up and keep looking for more girls

the last time i used tinder was back in '21, and i had pretty much the worst dating experience i've ever had in my entire life. for context prior to this incident, the pandemic has left me craving for physical irl interactions again, and so on my 18th birthday i've decided to use tinder with varying results. this is one of those negative results that i've gotten in november of 2021:

i met up with this dude in a subway station, rode the train to downtown, and we walked down the street once we got out to the movie theatre. we were going to see bellfast at that time. he was pretty cool until we were at the theatre, nearly reaching the end of the movie, he told me he had to go take a piss and left. i wated for him inside the theatre while my phone was off during the film, and as soon as it ended, i walked out and got a message saying (paraphrasing) "oh hey, i'm sorry i had to leave so soon. had to go back home to do something". needless to say, i was upset.

after walking for a while and going to my favourite restaraunt where i had intended to take him after the movie, i was drinking four-to-five shots of sake while eating my dinner. i felt terrible, lonely, and disappointed. i knew i was probably stuck being alone again for the rest of my days, and i hated it. i got on the streetcar to go home, only once when i arrived at the station i have a drunken breakdown in the middle of the subway station. fortunately, some people and staff saw me, asked me what was wrong, and i told them everything here. they were super supportive and i could have not thanked them enough because i ended up deleting tinder the next day. i didn't go home on the subway that night, rather my parents picked me up at the hospital where the cops took me in cuffs*.

*sidenote:
we have a law here in ontario in which people who are sent to hospitals due to mental health issues like my case are put in handcuffs for safety reasons and to prevent the person from harming themselves and others.

after that horrowing incident had happened, i vowed to never use tinder ever again, but since i've been thinking about dating again, i might change my position into where i could possibly use the app or sites similar to tinder, such as bumble or hinge.

oh, and we never went on another date after that, if you wanted to know. never really heard from him again.

I'm so sorry for you. Seems that assholes are everywhere...
And yeah, I'm thinking on not using any app ever again, guess sometines being alone is better than suffering that shit. In less than two months I'll be 30 and probably will stay single since the end of my days. Even tho I crave for irl attention but yeah, If it has to be as my or your case... better not to interact with anyone.

yeah people fucking suck, and my dating experiences in general doesn't really help my case too much since i've constantly was catfished by trolls or ex-friends of mine.

Yeah.. catfish was literally what happened to me, don't even know who the hell was.