From what I know, sounding is actually perfectly safe if you know what you're doing, though I'm not into it myself. As far as urethral penetration goes however, I'm a hyper kinda guy (if it wasn't obvious) so I'm far enough detached from reality that sticking a dick into an even bigger dickhole doesn't really faze me. It's another hole to fuck, and when you cum you cumflate their balls, so there's that.