As the title says, for people such as myself struggling figuring out their gender identity, do the people who have it all figured out have advice?
-A little bit of context, I’m currently bigender with a female preference (Mainly wanna be a girl but I still like my dick lol) but I’ve been male and a trans women in the past. I’m still not sure if this is the right fit for me, but I’m not all that knowledgable on this kind of thing.

In the end, specific identity doesn't matter as much. People pretend like it does, in a world where you have to classify yourself to be recognized by the larger public, but it really shouldn't...

People like to say transition is like running away from your gender screaming, only to crawl back to poke it with a stick.

If you generally lean more femme, hey, good for you! Talk to your doctor about transitioning. You don't need to have some sort of 'this female to qualify'. You can come back and find the parts about being a guy that you liked. Like, I'm not interested in bottom surgery, and I like throwing around words that might apply more to men, but I don't really care much.

If I had to pick out a specific label? Hell, I dunno. I'm just happy being cute, and that my license says F. And if you're anything like me, I'm sure you will be, too.

Just feel it out. Do as much as you think you need to. Above all, be comfortable.

When in doubt, just fucking give up. I haven’t got one, I’m not even nonbinary. I just don’t have one. No one cares, and I can’t be misgendered that way. My pronouns are / is what I’m saying.

I'M a dude, dressed as a dude, disguised as another dude-


Nah but srsly it's only figured in a sense of "what am i to other people."
straight up im a male,
identify as a [thick dicked] male,
im into females that identify as females... or DTF basically-
LITERALLY almost anything that looks female, im liable to wanna stick my dick in with enough drinks.
thing is, my personality is so open, lighthearted & liberal that i come off bi sometimes? i mean i don't hate it but i just gotta let ppl know i dont swing that way.
when you smile & joke a lot and don't have an "i eat hella pussy" beard, i guess you come off as gay, smh.
furthermore, online like here is where i explore the more... open aspects of what im mentally into.

The less you care about it, the happier you'll be
Generally speaking

As long as you're comfortable with who you are and you're friends accept you, does it really matter what specific 'gender' you may identify as or how other people refer to you

Some people do wear their gender identity as a badge or a title and that's okay. Other people like R.I.P.anons does the opposite and that's perfectly okay too

End of the day, you're still you. Personally, I think gender plays a very small part in ones identify and it won't really impact the more important parts of who you are as a person; values, culture, personality.

And if you do care, don't worry so much about the when. You've still got the rest of your life to figure it out and you have the freedom to change to whatever you like whenever you feel. That's the beauty of these fluid parts of identity.

So just chill and keep on being horny B)

similar to what the first person said. There’s no need for you to have pronouns and orientation. If you like women and you act like one but you like having a penis. Then you’re just a straight feminine person. And there’s nothing particularly wrong with that, just be yourself. There’s no reason that you need to be in a certain category. You’ll have to do some deep diving within yourself to find out but which you probably already did. I’m straight and I never had to deal with something like not knowing what to be called and what to be.

Be yourself.

Kinda simple as that. Be who you are most comfortable as and don't let others define you. Not exactly optimal if you're trying be what you're not.

Personally I think the idea of gender identity is completely overblown as it is now, and if you want to be a certain way, don’t worry about any attached label. Just worry about being yourself.

It's okay to be a masculine woman, and it's okay to be a feminine man. Pronouns are given not chosen, and surgery should always be a last resort.

Well said

Just be who you wanna be.

As long as you're comfortable in your own skin, that's all you need.

- Sincerely, a cis person on R34

I avoid all this needlessly complicated bullshit by going with my sex. Sex is simple.

if you want to act like a girl while still liking to have a dick, you can be a femboy. i'm not into femboys but from what i've seen femboys are cool. they're like girls instead they don't have some of the negative aspects of personality that girls have a lot. and they also have a penis
from what i've seen for the past years, as a femboy you'll be like a king of simps. girls? boys? oh, you'll have almost all of them simping for you. we have a lot of gays who like feminine men nowadays

P.S. not saying that you can't be a trans girl while still having a penis, but still i think femboys are cooler as people

you should not try so hard. give up trying to fit into a label and start just saying "lol idk" if you get asked. if you have dysphoria about some parts, highlight the opposite (for example if you have wide shoulders, wear wide skirts for an hourglass figure) and see how it feels. you'll figure it out eventually or come to the point that i'm in, which is that i just don't give a fuck x) though i have to concede that it's easier for me not to since my native language doesn't have gendered pronouns at all.

but yeah, basically: stop caring, and the answer will eventually come to you. also remember that even though often being trans is described in terms of dysphoria and what you want to run away from and leave behind, it's equally (and often more) about euphoria: feeling comfortable in your own skin and finding ways to make your life your own. good luck in any case!

As a male most people are going to perceive you as a man unless you put a LOT of work into altering your apperance. If there's any way you can be comfortable living as a man I would take that option because it's definitely the path of least resistance. As others have mentioned you don't have to be a woman or non-binary to be feminine but even in very liberal societies men who exhibit feminine traits are discriminated against. You need to balance what makes you comfortable with the reality of navigating a society rooted in a binary gender paradigm and associated gender norms.