As a non-straight person, I really want to know, how and why did you find out you were straight and how have you felt about it over time?

I knew I was straight ever since I learned about how sex works and the numerous times I would sneak and watch the Spice Channel on my mom's unlocked cable box. Two situations went down that pretty much secured me being straight.

I don't remember the exact scene/movie that was playing but it had an asian woman with a rather large ass and from that point I knew more shapely thicker women were my thing. The other was being at a party with my older brother. Dancing with a girl and she must have been into vibe because she wound up bending over and shaking her ass in front of my face. My first thought? Grab her ass and squeeze.

The first sign was probably feelings about female characters in movies and cartoons that I didn't fully understand but now have a bit more of an idea about

Later someone explained to me (as a child this is) that a man could love another man, and the idea seemed so ridiculous to child me that I laughed at it on the face of it, thought it was a joke, I understand it better now of course

Later still when I was a little older though still pretty young, my heart felt all fluttery around girls, I still didn't fully understand it but I understood it better than before, the upside of my understanding being "I want girls in my life"

When I first started watching porn I found gay porn repulsive, I don't mean in a moralistic sense, but as in literally repelling, I would move to close it or scroll away, that sort of thing

Later when I had first girlfriends that was probably the biggest jump, like coming to terms with how men and women are actually quite different and moving through that was interesting, for a little while I thought like "man I wish these women were more like men" but now I've recognised that I love women as women and for their femininity in all its different forms, I wouldn't like it if the women I loved were more like men, I like them for what they are as women, oh my god I love women so much

I feel like I have a lot to say on my relationship with women and femininity but it's a little hard to put to words sometimes and I shouldn't write a novel here anyway

Since I was aware of things in general and thought girls were pretty at a rather young age like an overwhelming majority of the male population. Over time, I know and feel this is what is natural and just the way to be as a dude.

It's funny because as a lesbian I relate to this a lot. Growing up I always found the idea of dating boys to be weird and gross, and I could never relate to my sister when she talked about guys she liked or was dating. I just never understood what all the fuss was about, or what was supposed to be attractive about a man.

Thing is, girls call each other beautiful and pretty all the time, so for a while I just thought the feelings I had were normal. It wasn't until, like you said, that I started getting fluttery and having "omg I want to be with her" vibes from certain girls that I realized, oh yeah, I really am just different.

But in the end I don't think we're very different at all. Our experiences are basically the same. We're just two sides of the same coin :)

Well I'm not straight, I'm bi, but first I developed feelings towards men so I considered myself straight for a while.
I guess I knew about sex and I was taught that girls are straight by default so I went along with it.
My first sexual experience was with a friend of mine, we were playing on his computer and somehow I agreed to touch or caress his crotch everytime I died in the game... That progressed and I ended up kissing his cock through his boxers, I touched it but we had to leave it there. Needless to say I was soo wet...
Then when I got the chance to watch porn for the first time I was sure I loved cock~

Since I saw erotica show on TV my dad used to watch when I was little. At that moment, I realized that women are quite attractive with all their curves, and that was it. Thanks Dad, I guess?..

That makes sense to me, we are both attracted to women so, whilst growing up, we had similar experiences around that

The only thing which I wouldn't think is the same (and which you left out of quote) is that attraction between the masculine and feminine, and I'm interested in how that works for you. Do you consider yourself to have more masculine traits and so you feel that same attraction of differences? Or that you're still feminine but the same-same connection of traits is more natural for you?

I used think I was gay because I always wanted to make out with boys and then suck their cocks, swallow their loads, let them fuck me and breed me and piss in me/on me. but I always wanted to sub and I wanted to be the cumdumpster, never to top or take the manly role. but as boys started dressing me like a girl to use me and I started becoming girlier and girlier I realized I’m actual not a boy, but actually a girl with a meaty 8 inch cock. so the fact that I like sex with boys doesn’t make me a gayboy, but a straight girl.

I think I get what you mean, like being attracted to women because their traits contrast to yours as a man.

Well I've always been something of a tomboy (not the butch kind, just the normal kind lol) but it was never really about other girls being more feminine than me specifically. As long as they're women and they present themselves as women, then that's all that matters to me. They can be really girly, they can be tomboyish like me, or they can be a mix of things. As long as they're hot and they have good personalities, then they make the cut in my book :)

That being said I'm not very attracted to butches, though. So I guess we are kinda similar in that we don't go for women who try to be as masculine as possible. There has to be a certain "womanly" quality that we desire in her lol

Keep it simple right :)

I feel similar to that too on some kind of level, I'd have a short term thing with any girl who fits that criteria but I think if I was going to settle down (which is where I'm at in my relationship) then the feminine-masculine is more important to me
I think it's as in, together, we form one whole "unit", and that unit has a good spread of traits and capabilities and that makes it sort of foundational and sturdy for building other things in our shared life on
But anyway, this is well beyond the scope of this thread, shant hijack it with half formed thoughts about this stuff, thanks for sating my curiousity

You're not alone in that idea. The ancient Greeks believed that, in the beginning of time, humans were actually one entity with two heads, four arms, four legs, etc. Forces ripped that entity into two, exiled them to opposite ends of the globe, and from that moment, our eternal quest has been to rejoin each other — to find the “other half” that completes us. It’s a pretty romantic concept and probably gave birth to the whole illusory notion of “finding your soulmate.”

That did cross my mind whilst I was writing that, I also don't believe in a "soulmate" in that sense though, but it is a nice story
I do believe in pre-determination, but not that we were once together at an earlier point, or that my partner is the "perfect" partner for me, or that there could be a metric for such a thing (though if there could be, she comes pretty close)

(Incidentally, the source for that story, Plato's Symposium, I decided to read a bit more about it, very interesting, check out the wiki page, Aristophanes says you come from the sun, Rat comes from the earth, and I come from the moon)

Me saw booba, dick went up.
Me saw dick, dick no went up.
Me made conclusion based on evidence.

Lol nah you're fine. This thread isn't getting much traction anyway.

And I see what you're saying, that taking the best of both worlds is necessary for a stable relationship. And I do think there are situations where the natural dynamic between a man and a woman is necessary for certain things to work out best.

For instance, when parenting a child, mothers naturally show more affection while fathers naturally prefer to play with the child. Because men and women naturally approach parenthood differently, their contrasting traits are needed to give the child that ideal balance of life, so that they'll be well-adjusted as adults.

This isn't to say that people with single or gay parents can't be well-functioning adults, but it's not optimal for a child's development. This is why I don't support gay adoption; it shouldn't be encouraged when there's a much more obvious and natural alternative that should be preserved and protected.

I'm not hating on myself, I'm just accepting what is factual lol