How have you approached past or current girlfriends of yours in asking for some kinky roleplaying or other fantasies - for the first time? What were some memorable reactions and experiences (good or bad)?

While I'm up for asking to try new things in the bedroom, I never had the guts to ask for roleplaying (though I'd like to), fearing it might turn out horribly awkward if the gf isn't into it/weirded out by it. That's why I'd like to hear some other people's experiences.

Ladies, feel free to join in as well.

I've never really had a problem with this. I just tell the girl that if they aren't into it then there are other things to do. Plus I love making a girls fantasy come true so I will usually try anything once to make her happy you know? This has let to all sorts of role play, dominant/submissive play, strap ons, sex in public, and one very nice threesome.

I've had almost no issues asking for something since they were either totally on it or didn't care. But one I just had to ask for once was asking them to at least smile.

Nice topic question btw

My ultimate fantasy

First things first you just need to find out what they are into and what's on their 'Nope' list. If you ever need an excuse to bring that kind of topic up, just go on the Internet, look at IMDB, and 'accidentally stumble' onto 50 Shades of Grey and then ask for their opinion on the film, and get talking about the stuff they do. Considering its popularity chances are your partner has seen or read it and had some inspiration and plans of their own that they have been worried about asking YOU to try xD You honestly should never worry about asking a partner to try roleplay, that is one of the most common forms of basic 'kinky' sex out there alongside light spanking and dirty talk, and the chances are high that they will want to try it in some way, even starting out light. Talk about it with them, ask them if they'd like to try it, and suggest basic topics first like student and teacher, nurse and patient or doctor and patient, boss and Secretary etc.
So go for it mate, ask your partner, you won't ever know if they're into it or not if you don't take the step.

I brought up pegging with my last ex and he got so angry at me that I had to stay with a friend for the night . "DO I LOOK LIKE A fa-"you get the idea. I had one boyfriend who had a thing for cumming in panties that I was wearing, when he asked if I would let him do that he looked like a dog begging for table scraps

oh jesus, that would terrify me

I was kinda worried he'd hit me( he never ever Did) but he broke a lamp. I was scared and I ran out of the apartment. Not good times

My fiancee is and has been pretty good about my kinks. Of she doesn't really like anything, she'll just tell me, and allow me to continue with my fantasies. It's all about mutual respect. That's the foundation of a solid relationship.

could have sworn I typed in "I know this isn't a fantasy"

there is some truth in this actually; one of the reasons i don't watch much live-action porn is because i can't stand it when the girls make weird, unflattering facial expressions (which they seem to do all the time).
also when they make annoying noises.
also when they have crappy camera angles.

i feel like yelling at the screen: just shut the fuck up, smile, and show me your body

Its ok to have kinks as long as they are Healthy always like to be private that is my thing

@Dickygirl_ Yeah, that's the kind of (almost-)worst case scenario one could think of. And even the second part, where you seem to have lowered your opinion on the partner who asked for the panties thing is something I was worried about for myself. However for me it's always about having a good time with the partner, and not necessarily having to do anything fetish-istic, so I wouldn't sweat it if I didn't get to do some specific thing with my SO.


Some great advice - thanks, man. I'm single atm, so I can't put it to use for now :P But I wanted to ask for future reference and I'll keep your words in mind.

And @Slythe, very good point about the mutual respect. I think I just never bothered to go for it since I wanted to avoid a potentially awkward situation, but if you love your partner I guess it shouldn't be a big deal at all. Plus if it works out, it might give the relationship a boost as well.

I gave up approaching people with fantasies. It opened the door for people doing their fantasies and some of them were too weird for me to do. It seemed like a bitch thing to do my fantasy and not do theirs so I just don't ask.

My boyfriend didn't get the idea of starting light and working upwards and dumped a MLP scene on me where I peed on him and beat him. The MLP thing alone is weird to me but the other two things I wouldn't do. He broke up with me over it because I wouldn't respect his lifestyle. I don't even know what that means.

when you put it like that it sounds very rude. Mine was just a case of bad relationship shit.

Probably shouldn't have mentioned this since it wasn't even a part of the topic question