Clichecaligirl
03/03/17 10:48PM
Scary/Disturbing/Upsetting kinks
There is a certain danger to internet kink culture in that everyone seems to have this unwritten rule of "don't judge my kinks and I won't judge yours."
The problem being of course that you end up tolerating, enabling and sometimes encouraging people who should really be seeking therapy instead of exploring these ideas and desires which only makes whatever issues might be linked to them stronger in their mind.
Unfortunately, there haven't been a lot of studies done on this and the ones that have been done have been inconclusive, so it's hard to know what the odds of something becoming dangerous really are. The sad truth is it varies a lot from person to person on how well adjusted they are otherwise and how much willpower they have to allow themselves to explore these things and still stay safe and not endanger others either, which makes it even harder to tell unless you know them really well which is hard to achieve online. Then of course you have the added issue of that they know if someone online disagrees with them they have an entire internet full of people and they can just keep looking and find someone else to enable them.
When I really got into erotic role-playing communities when I was much younger I was appalled by how many people were interested in things like bestiality, pedophilia, rape and other emotionally and physically harmful kinks, so I did a lot of research into this since I wasn't even sure how I was supposed to react. As I started from my findings... it's still hard to say.
I just wanted to share this with everyone who comes on here and was like me when I first encountered it: seeing things that upset them and then seeing communities of people just letting it slide. Please note this isn't a place for you to lists off all the creepy shit you're into.
Leena_Erotic
03/03/17 11:02PM
I probably don't have the right amount of knowledge or word spewing for this but...

I can understand letting some kinks slide cause "Well there's no equivalent of that and it's not dangerous" but then there's Incest, rape and many other worse ones. I've only met one actual person IRL who admitted that They loved inflicting and recieving pain(Long story short, shit happened)

All I can really say is, don't necessarily judge someone right off the bat cause they have this one kink, but atleast keep an eye on them

So was that about inline with the topic? I hope so
Friday_3
03/04/17 12:09AM
I'm sorry, I don't quite understand this

you said...
Clichecaligirl said:
There is a certain danger to internet kink culture in that everyone seems to have this unwritten rule of "don't judge my kinks and I won't judge yours."
The problem being of course that you end up tolerating, enabling and sometimes encouraging people who should really be seeking therapy instead of exploring these ideas and desires which only makes whatever issues might be linked to them stronger in their mind.
Unfortunately, there haven't been a lot of studies done on this and the ones that have been done have been inconclusive, so it's hard to know what the odds of something becoming dangerous really are.


then followed that with...
Clichecaligirl said:
When I really got into erotic role-playing communities when I was much younger I was appalled by how many people were interested in things like bestiality, pedophilia, rape and other emotionally and physically harmful kinks, so I did a lot of research into this since I wasn't even sure how I was supposed to react. As I started from my findings... it's still hard to say.


did you do a lot of research about the sexual fetishes, or a lot of research about the lack of knowledge on the sexual fetishes?
Myraka
03/04/17 12:41PM
Leena_Erotic said:
I've only met one actual person IRL who admitted that They loved inflicting and recieving pain(Long story short, shit happened)


I would say whatever floats their boat but sometimes it leaves the realm of tolerating and being -forced- to accept their kinks or we're bad judge-y people.

I've been looked at as a bitch because I wouldn't accept severe beatings as a normal and healthy thing for pleasure. If you need to get nearly hospitalized for pleasure, you need to go have your head checked out *shrugs*

Someone on kik would tell me that he'd fuck his dog IRL and 'she loved it' and wow did I ever get spoken to horribly because I was supposedly 'kink shaming'. Yea, you should be kink-shamed. There's limits.

I can't see how anyone could get to the point they need to get off SO BADLY they have to harm themselves or things around them and get mad you won't praise them for exploring a fetish.

XEVILCl0wnX
03/04/17 06:06PM
The only taboo kinks to me is guro and death.
StarwarsFan501
03/04/17 06:40PM
XEVILCl0wnX said:
The only taboo kinks to me is guro and death.


Same here, with the addition of scat and urine.
bipface
03/04/17 06:52PM
StarwarsFan501 said:
with the addition of […] urine.

what about if it's really diluted / clear?
StarwarsFan501
03/04/17 06:54PM
bipface said:
StarwarsFan501 said:
with the addition of […] urine.

what about if it's really diluted / clear?


still no. XD
Lorby
03/04/17 06:57PM
bipface said:
StarwarsFan501 said:
with the addition of […] urine.

what about if it's really diluted / clear?
still urine. That's like saying
"What if it tasted like chocolate"
Nah man, still gross (For me, if ya don't find it gross then duh)
bipface
03/04/17 07:08PM
Lorby said:
"What if it tasted like chocolate"
Nah man, still gross (For me, if ya don't find it gross then duh)

I wonder if it's still the same fetish though
e.g. I don't like scat, but post #1492418 is perfectly fine by me

Not that I'm trying to tell you what your fetishes should or shouldn't be
MegaWatt
03/04/17 08:02PM
Well my brain is telling me not to put my opinion up on the interwebz when I can't go anonymous, but fuck it. A lot of kinks are horrible in real life, which many of us established sucks pretty often. Any kind of bodily harm is just a no. I've dated a masochist, and I'm a bit of a sadist in reality. After I nearly killed her I took a step back to reevaluate my kinks.
As for piss and shit, it's waste for a reason.
StarwarsFan501
03/04/17 08:08PM
MegaWatt said:
Well my brain is telling me not to put my opinion up on the interwebz when I can't go anonymous, but fuck it. A lot of kinks are horrible in real life, which many of us established sucks pretty often. Any kind of bodily harm is just a no. I've dated a masochist, and I'm a bit of a sadist in reality. After I nearly killed her I took a step back to reevaluate my kinks.
As for piss and shit, it's waste for a reason.


Same. It's like that Cards against humanity card.

[Blank]. Awesome in theory, kind of a mess in Practice.
Lorby
03/04/17 10:21PM
bipface said:
Lorby said:
"What if it tasted like chocolate"
Nah man, still gross (For me, if ya don't find it gross then duh)

I wonder if it's still the same fetish though
e.g. I don't like scat, but post #1492418 is perfectly fine by me

Not that I'm trying to tell you what your fetishes should or shouldn't be
Nah it's fine. Personally I still think its gross to a degree but that's just cause it's the poopycave
Lolicon_Lust
03/18/17 02:00PM
Nothing wrong with being into things society see as bad. As long as its consensual and hurts no one. Your opinion girl on this matter is nothing. Just because you like society think it wrong? When dating back to the start of human history all these things have been done since then. And considered natural up until a few people made a law because their opinion about it was dislike. So dont judge us at all and we do not need help or therapy. As we are not mindless monsters, We know what to do and how to control it so everything we do everyone taking part enjoys.
Kinky_Pie
03/19/17 01:42AM
Hardcore Corn.The most disturbing of them all.
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