Dat philosphy tho

You are right, there aren't a lot of dom girls on this site. Sometimes I want to sub, but it is really hard to find a female that is serious or actually enjoys being the dominant one.

I'm a male that plays a female dom. Femdoms are very rare, Quite difficult to find. I'd know, I played a femboy a lot before.
I try my best to not give people the wrong idea, But they get them anyway.

Hey sub m here

Normally I would say I love being a dominant female but I've been worn down over time.

I don't get many PMs but the ones I do get pretty much destroy any enthusiasm I had to RP. They either come as a list of demands rivalling a short novel or RP requests designed in such a way that I'd be doing 100% with little or no feedback from my partner.

Shaded_Cube also mentioned how uncomfortable he/she gets with just how submissive some people can be and I have to agree. Thankfully, it's only happened a couple of times but I've read some real desperate PMs that were so self depreciating and destructive that anything I said back might have pushed them over the edge. Just because someone is submissive doesn't mean flushing all your dignity down the toilet.

Then again, I've had some really nice experiences too! As a result, I'm only a dominant partner for people I've gained a good rapport with already.

Just out of curiosity then, how submissive is to submissive? I feel I still do a good job at not being too submissive. Sure pegging is nice, but I seem to never found a women rper that can go with out it. Or when I can find someone there response is less then a sentence.

If anyone wants to test my metal I'd love to be either dominate or dominated. Which ever you ladies are in a mood for. :)

Obviously, I can't speak for everyone because this is a matter of what they view to be suitably submissive. I personally feel people can be submissive without sacrificing everything to fulfill that role.

There are plenty of people who are going about their life normally but in the bedroom, they love to let the girl take control. Some like to be pegged all the time and some like to be tied up. There's tons of stuff so whatever floats their boat right?

The submissiveness I find a little too much is the extreme levels some people go to. On another site, I had someone desperately beg me to send abusive, degrading and humiliating things. I politely declined since I'm not really an ultra-abusive kind of dom. Then I was asked if I would send it to his work and personal email so he could see off-site how worthless he was (he sent his facebook page with all his contact details).

It was kind of a weird request and even if that were my thing, I had no idea if this wasn't someone setting another person up for abuse. I got another PM a day later and he attached a separate picture of himself holding the current date, my name asking to be abused and his personal info again just to prove it was him and at that point I didn't bother replying.

What's too much for me is the complete desperation and pathetic persona they adopt to fulfill their submissive desires. Some people are too willing to destroy any dignity they have on the whims of a dominant partner just for a few minutes of pleasure.

I like domination, but I like being on both sides. I like being made to feel helpless, vulnerable, and weak because of my femininity. But at the same time, I love humiliating boys by turning the tables and making them experience having their masculinity be their weakness and their egos destroyed.

I guess I just like humiliation and it doesn't matter which side of it that I'm on.