Meh. I'm rather a switch
I could have sworn I'm dominate male but then again I rarely show it XD
me?
50% dom / 50% sub
50% dom / 50% sub
Gloom said:
The main reason why you won't find as many dominant males on porn sites is because they're having sex with real women (or men if they're gay) while many of the submissive ones are here having cybersex with women (or men if they're gay). Dominant males who do come to porn sites usually do so quietly and sparingly to satisfy their urges and little else.
The main reason why you won't find as many dominant males on porn sites is because they're having sex with real women (or men if they're gay) while many of the submissive ones are here having cybersex with women (or men if they're gay). Dominant males who do come to porn sites usually do so quietly and sparingly to satisfy their urges and little else.
That makes sense. I do get the impression that people on porn sites don't really... Have it together; or if they do, they're on the site to fulfill the more bizarre or taboo urges they have.
Submissive men are less likely to go out and pursue actual women or men so they come to porn sites. I think there's a certain element of low self esteem that's pretty common in those people too. I don't mean that in a bad way, certainly not all submissive people are necessarily pushovers or lazy or anything. We have leaders AND followers for a reason, they balance each other out.
So Gloom, would you consider yourself submissive? :P
sex_master said:
I am a dominant man. Love to have control over my partners
I am a dominant man. Love to have control over my partners
That's not the kind of dominant I'm talking about, nor is it the kind of dominant that I think is good for a relationship. It's not about control.
I think the common idea of what a dominant male is and my idea of a dominant male are just about as similar as Hitler and the Dalai Lama. Both are leaders, but they have completely different morals and goals.
A little bit of material for you folks
Here's a site that many people in the BDSM community should have access to, for themselves, and for educating others.
www.evilmonk.org/A/menu.cfm
www.evilmonk.org/A/menu.cfm
Papaya said:
Maybe it's just me, but I have recently run into waves and waves of submissive men. It's not a problem for me, I can switch roles very easily and sometimes I enjoy being dominant or taking the lead, however I have come across so many submissive men lately that I'm starting to wonder why. Why is this more common?
The few dominant men I know of are borderline/actually are abusive and sexist.
What the heck?
Maybe it's just me, but I have recently run into waves and waves of submissive men. It's not a problem for me, I can switch roles very easily and sometimes I enjoy being dominant or taking the lead, however I have come across so many submissive men lately that I'm starting to wonder why. Why is this more common?
The few dominant men I know of are borderline/actually are abusive and sexist.
What the heck?
speaking as a dominant man, a sexist can never be a good dom <_< because then he makes the rp about himself through his identity as the men not the dom. Which in the end defeats the purpose of the thing.
There are more submissive men online because most of them only want to experiment with this role, as some of them are much more dominant IRL, but on the net, they want to do different things.
Femme_Fatale said:
Here's a site that many people in the BDSM community should have access to, for themselves, and for educating others.
www.evilmonk.org/A/menu.cfm
Here's a site that many people in the BDSM community should have access to, for themselves, and for educating others.
www.evilmonk.org/A/menu.cfm
That website is amazing, not just for BDSM related information but also relationships in general. I like how it has a portion that points out the 'red flags' of potentially abusive partners and creeps. I was at one point the victim of an extremely abusive relationship and I still have scars from that incident, so I'm pleased to see just about anything out there to help others avoid getting caught in that kind of relationship.
Edit: www.evilmonk.org/A/jokes.cfm <--- The 'wannabe' portion of this is something people REALLY need to read.
Papaya said:
That website is amazing, not just for BDSM related information but also relationships in general. I like how it has a portion that points out the 'red flags' of potentially abusive partners and creeps. I was at one point the victim of an extremely abusive relationship and I still have scars from that incident, so I'm pleased to see just about anything out there to help others avoid getting caught in that kind of relationship.
Edit: www.evilmonk.org/A/jokes.cfm <--- The 'wannabe' portion of this is something people REALLY need to read.
Femme_Fatale said:
Here's a site that many people in the BDSM community should have access to, for themselves, and for educating others.
www.evilmonk.org/A/menu.cfm
Here's a site that many people in the BDSM community should have access to, for themselves, and for educating others.
www.evilmonk.org/A/menu.cfm
That website is amazing, not just for BDSM related information but also relationships in general. I like how it has a portion that points out the 'red flags' of potentially abusive partners and creeps. I was at one point the victim of an extremely abusive relationship and I still have scars from that incident, so I'm pleased to see just about anything out there to help others avoid getting caught in that kind of relationship.
Edit: www.evilmonk.org/A/jokes.cfm <--- The 'wannabe' portion of this is something people REALLY need to read.
Glad you enjoy it! I spread it around whenever and wherever appropriate :3
Extremists of any kind always just ruin innocent and good intentions.
I switch, but I'm into a bit weirder shit. Not too weird though.
Hate to chime in on this so late, but papaya is kinda right. Being a switch myself I'm more layed back on being a bottom, but I do see quite alot of other bottoms and not many tops/doms.
I'm more a Dom myself but I'm a very nice person at the same time. It's weird despite how submissive/passive I am.
((Forgive the intrusion, please stay on topic about the lack of male doms and bdsm related things and avoid off topic controversial subjects like feminism and groups favoring a gender, a race, a creed or a colour (I don't like to have to censor).
They are all equally divisive... spreading disunity laced with hatred under the guise of progress, we are all children of the stars, all equal in the grand scheme of things and here at least such wasteful bickering is not welcome.))
They are all equally divisive... spreading disunity laced with hatred under the guise of progress, we are all children of the stars, all equal in the grand scheme of things and here at least such wasteful bickering is not welcome.))
