Seriously. If you're going to RP, you need to read this. Can't tell you how many people I've played with have violated all of these basic courtesies.
DO inform your RP partner that you would like to discontinue the session and why.
DO NOT disappear.
DO NOT disappear.
hot_sauce said:
DO inform your RP partner that you would like to discontinue the session and why.
DO NOT disappear.
DO inform your RP partner that you would like to discontinue the session and why.
DO NOT disappear.
THIS. At least send one last reply to get your partner off before disappearing. Or tell him/her what the problem is, maybe if you just speak up, they'll fix whatever displeases you and the session will become good again. Make RPs great again.
IWillNotDespairbyNoraShinji said:
THIS. At least send one last reply to get your partner off before disappearing. Or tell him/her what the problem is, maybe if you just speak up, they'll fix whatever displeases you and the session will become good again. Make RPs great again.
hot_sauce said:
DO inform your RP partner that you would like to discontinue the session and why.
DO NOT disappear.
DO inform your RP partner that you would like to discontinue the session and why.
DO NOT disappear.
THIS. At least send one last reply to get your partner off before disappearing. Or tell him/her what the problem is, maybe if you just speak up, they'll fix whatever displeases you and the session will become good again. Make RPs great again.
..I hate you for that last sentence so much..
But meh. I think there are good reasons to drop something without a message..
Emergencies happen, plus If ot mattered they would apologize to you after...unless they don't
Lorby said:
Emergencies happen, plus If ot mattered they would apologize to you after...unless they don't
Nah fucl that. I was just eating pizza.Emergencies happen, plus If ot mattered they would apologize to you after...unless they don't
no but seriously, that's kinda fishy when they don't
Jade_Non said:
no but seriously, that's kinda fishy when they don't
Lorby said:
Emergencies happen, plus If ot mattered they would apologize to you after...unless they don't
Nah fucl that. I was just eating pizza.Emergencies happen, plus If ot mattered they would apologize to you after...unless they don't
no but seriously, that's kinda fishy when they don't
Well i had this multiple times where i could not get on here for like 5 days. At which point i always find myself ask: "Should i bother this person again?"
Killua said:
Well i had this multiple times where i could not get on here for like 5 days. At which point i always find myself ask: "Should i bother this person again?"
I would assume it depends on the person. But I mean, how many people like long term RPs, whether it be intentional or not?
Jade_Non said:
no but seriously, that's kinda fishy when they don't
Lorby said:
Emergencies happen, plus If ot mattered they would apologize to you after...unless they don't
Nah fucl that. I was just eating pizza.Emergencies happen, plus If ot mattered they would apologize to you after...unless they don't
no but seriously, that's kinda fishy when they don't
Well i had this multiple times where i could not get on here for like 5 days. At which point i always find myself ask: "Should i bother this person again?"
Id say ask the person, but yeah I'm sure most would probably say no to that. I mean I can kinda see why someone wouldn't want to.
This sounds dumb and obvious, but it depends on the person....DOI!
This sounds dumb and obvious, but it depends on the person....DOI!
Killua said:
Well i had this multiple times where i could not get on here for like 5 days. At which point i always find myself ask: "Should i bother this person again?"
Jade_Non said:
no but seriously, that's kinda fishy when they don't
Lorby said:
Emergencies happen, plus If ot mattered they would apologize to you after...unless they don't
Nah fucl that. I was just eating pizza.Emergencies happen, plus If ot mattered they would apologize to you after...unless they don't
no but seriously, that's kinda fishy when they don't
Well i had this multiple times where i could not get on here for like 5 days. At which point i always find myself ask: "Should i bother this person again?"
I wouldn't be sour if it were a bad RP session to begin with.
Don't disappear, don't do that, send a mail :D
Thread reminds me of: www.youtube.com/watch?v=S9a2cX_YnO4
j/k
Thread reminds me of: www.youtube.com/watch?v=S9a2cX_YnO4
j/k
I agree. I hate when people just flake out without notice. It's just rude. I end up sitting around waiting. How hard is it to just say "Hey sorry, but I gotta go for now"? You don't even have to say why. Just give a heads up out of courtesy.
I feel a lack of response is a clear enough message it wasn't working out.
I am a notorious non-responder because some people are just not compatible. I waste so much time responding to people and saying it wasn't going to work out and no one would respond with "ok fair enough." It was either begging for RP, insults, or pretentious attitudes as responses. I don't have time to deal with people being a baby about rejection.
Also, it always seems to be that the non-responder is in the wrong when people complain about this. If someone is constantly getting no response from people, the problem might be themselves and how they behave or socialize. I know one individual who ran straight into a thread to complain how angry non-responders made him right after I stopped responding to him for talking to me like garbage.
I highly doubt people are throwing a temper tantrum at home when a phone call or email isn't returned so I don't see how this is different. I mean, you could make the case it is akin to hanging up mid conversation but if I were on the phone to a stranger and they were weirding me out, I'd hang up too.
I am a notorious non-responder because some people are just not compatible. I waste so much time responding to people and saying it wasn't going to work out and no one would respond with "ok fair enough." It was either begging for RP, insults, or pretentious attitudes as responses. I don't have time to deal with people being a baby about rejection.
Also, it always seems to be that the non-responder is in the wrong when people complain about this. If someone is constantly getting no response from people, the problem might be themselves and how they behave or socialize. I know one individual who ran straight into a thread to complain how angry non-responders made him right after I stopped responding to him for talking to me like garbage.
I highly doubt people are throwing a temper tantrum at home when a phone call or email isn't returned so I don't see how this is different. I mean, you could make the case it is akin to hanging up mid conversation but if I were on the phone to a stranger and they were weirding me out, I'd hang up too.
Myraka said:
I feel a lack of response is a clear enough message it wasn't working out.
I am a notorious non-responder because some people are just not compatible. I waste so much time responding to people and saying it wasn't going to work out and no one would respond with "ok fair enough." It was either begging for RP, insults, or pretentious attitudes as responses. I don't have time to deal with people being a baby about rejection.
Also, it always seems to be that the non-responder is in the wrong when people complain about this. If someone is constantly getting no response from people, the problem might be themselves and how they behave or socialize. I know one individual who ran straight into a thread to complain how angry non-responders made him right after I stopped responding to him for talking to me like garbage.
I highly doubt people are throwing a temper tantrum at home when a phone call or email isn't returned so I don't see how this is different. I mean, you could make the case it is akin to hanging up mid conversation but if I were on the phone to a stranger and they were weirding me out, I'd hang up too.
I feel a lack of response is a clear enough message it wasn't working out.
I am a notorious non-responder because some people are just not compatible. I waste so much time responding to people and saying it wasn't going to work out and no one would respond with "ok fair enough." It was either begging for RP, insults, or pretentious attitudes as responses. I don't have time to deal with people being a baby about rejection.
Also, it always seems to be that the non-responder is in the wrong when people complain about this. If someone is constantly getting no response from people, the problem might be themselves and how they behave or socialize. I know one individual who ran straight into a thread to complain how angry non-responders made him right after I stopped responding to him for talking to me like garbage.
I highly doubt people are throwing a temper tantrum at home when a phone call or email isn't returned so I don't see how this is different. I mean, you could make the case it is akin to hanging up mid conversation but if I were on the phone to a stranger and they were weirding me out, I'd hang up too.
I reall don't think we're talking but extenuating circumstances such as those you've described. If someone is being rude or harassing you, nobody is going to knock you for no longer responding (except the person you're bailing on maybe). Or if there's an emergency... But come one, it's usually not an emergency. We're talking about the common courtesy you give to someone else if all else is normal. Waiting for emails and phone calls to be returned is a little different, too. RP in real time can more closely be related to talking on the phone, and you just don't hang up on someone mid conversation. You go through a process of "Well it's getting late.." or "I'd better get going" or what have you. I've given this courtesy to everyone I've played with over many years, and I've NEVER had someone react more poorly to that than they would to just flaking mid-game. You're worried about wasting the time it takes to just say "Hey I gotta run for now", when the other person is wasting time waiting on you. Like we've said, it's just a matter of courtesy.
Thank you so much for writing this. So many people only make it about their selves or their own fantasys and it makes it unbearable for the other personn
