Do you think it’s justified for someone to get upset when they enter a site like r34 or any other porn site and get messages asking to rp or hookup messages? I think there is some justification, especially if your not someone commenting on any posts or just existing on here and some random person start texting you for requests but on the other hand what do you expect? This is a porn site where most people are going to want those things like rps or sexting or even more. I’m not trying to be disrespectful in any way but if you don’t like receiving messages about porn on a porn site when you’re trying to look for discussion then why stick around? I know this is a discussion that has been most likely talked to death about in the past but it makes me curious to see what other people think! Like I said before I’m not trying to upset people but it’s a question I need to ask.

Well I understand getting upset over hookup messages, asking a stranger to meet-up on a porn site is rather creepy. RP is very different to that and I can see people getting mad if they don't want to RP and constantly get messages about it, though that is a tad sillier than the first.

tbh totally jusified it's on the rp initiator to find someone actually interested in rp mistakes happen but randomly dming people for rp is bad

I don't know if it's "justified" per se, but in my own experience, I had neither presumptions upon discovering this site. Hell, I didn't even know about RP or the fact that there was a Forum section here until 6-7 months in. And the funny thing is, even after all this time, I still have neither belief.

Ultimately, I think your question is a matter of expectations. That, and seeing that we're all strangers to one another at the end of the day (w/ IRL obligations to prioritize), I think it's... rather unrealistic.

In fact, I think you said it yourself:

"...on the other hand, what do you expect?"

Idk personally i dont really care. Im not interested in thme either but it dosent really bother me. Just something u should expect on a site like this. Theres better things to be angry at

I dont think being on a porn site automatically means you want to hook up or have sexual interaction with strangers, it sounds close to saying if someone dress a way or act a certain way theyre asking for it. Showing basic respect isn’t that hard, it takes a millisecond to just ask people if theyre up to it or want to have that talk.
It depends on context too, if someone comments something i dont think they should be upset if someone says it was a hot comment but getting way too personal with it and if it’s something completely unrelated to the comment i’d say they have every right to be upset about it.

Ive had messages i find creepy and/or gross but i usually just say im not into it and hope they feel embarrassed for being selfish about their own fantasy lol

I agree with this, I replied to someone completely unrelated to porn on forum and he kept dming me about meeting up irl when i said im uncomfortable with it and he wouldnt stop dming to a point it was sounding borderline stalkery so i said i dont want to and that he sounds like a stalker and then he stopped

I got asked to hookup when I was at the supermarket for Christmas schnitzels. You get used to it.
If you register on a pornsite, you know what to expect, especially if they get wind that you are a girl.

Look, I know what to expect. If you go walking in the woods, you're gonna get dirt on your shoes, but Goldenshrike said something I'm just gonna repeat:
Showing basic respect isn't that hard.

I got a message the other day that right out the door called me a pet, and planned to do rough things.
Irony is that I'm pretty open to disrespectful stuff, as long as you don't assume I am. And don't take this message as a free ticket.

Let me quote a friend who had a metal way of saying what Goldenshrike said:
"You've got One Shot At Glory and if you come in All Guns Blazing, you're Breaking The Law."

Depends on how it's framed in my eyes. If you just barge in to someone who's clearly not an RPer (not in the name, comments aren't inviting/arent in quotes) and just barge in demanding RP: dick move man. Do some research on who you're messaging.

If you're nice about, poke your head in, maybe make some spin on what they commented, introduce yourself. For me it's Witty Yet arousing reponse first then testing the waters by asking. Or making a plain offer: and telling them they can just not reply and delete if not interested.

Doesn't bother me at all. I just ignore the message and move on :)

It annoys me when I feel like I'm getting hit with robo-call sexual harassment. Don't slide into my DM's trying to initiate, and showing that you haven't seen me on here or even read a comment or gone through my favs.

People trying to get me to RP with no shared interests is frustrating because I always feel like they think I'm the cunt even though I was on the receiving end(NICE!) of the whole convo.

The real shit that pisses me off is when people DM rape threats. I know they aren't a serious threat. It's just REALLY gross.

If the numerous "Would You Meet / Hook Up With / Date Someone From Here?" threads are any indication, the majority of people here are horrified by the mere thought of connecting with someone in real life that they met on here. Some even go so far as to be incredibly judgmental and highly insulting to the members of this site, conveniently and very hypocritically ignoring the fact that they're members here too and are therefore speaking about themselves as well.

I think it IS possible to build a relationship that goes beyond DMs with someone you met on here, but it has to happen organically over time, and it has to be based on shared interests other than porn. If you open a DM conversation with some version of "Wanna fool around?", you're going to scare off a lot more people than you'll attract, even the ones with whom you might have had a shot if you'd played things a bit more cool.

Finally, there is the practical concern of real-world distances. Even if you and someone you meet here hit it off great and are dying to rip each other's clothes off with your teeth the instant you meet, the fact that you're hundreds if not thousands of miles away from each other and more often than not in entirely different countries will be a huge obstacle. Over many years I've come to accept that how much I want to meet someone in person that I've met online will always be directly proportionate to how far away they are: Can't stand 'em and cringe at their every post? They live literally three blocks from me. Possible serious love connection and potential life partner? They're on the other side of the fucking planet. Such is life on the internet.

If you're only here to get your fap you don't even need to check mail.