I was just wondering if in a long term (kinky) relationship would you want/need your partner to also be a switch? Why or why not? Can you truly just be a sub/dom for the rest of your life?

If my partner is capable of keeping things fresh in the bedroom while staying purely a sub/dom then I wouldnt mind being only the opposite. If not then yes, I would prefer them to be a switch as well. I wouldnt stay attached to a one trick pony forever.

That is an insane way to refer to another human being

I think life'd be a LOAD more fun to have a partner who's just as capable of turning the tables on me as I could on them... but then... I guess it'd also depend largely on... which of our sides are active in the particular moment? Idk honestly I feel like it'd be the dream to have a long-term partner that's a switch like myself... but the initial image of that dream didn't really take into account those kind of logistics. People aren't inherently mind readers, and... I don't think I've had a partner who didn't particularly favor one side over the other... which come to think of it I may have a certain bias of my own as well...

With a partner who has an established preference you do at least know what you'll be in for, but I'm not sure if I could handle never being able to express all of the sides of me in the long term. *shrug*

Its just an expression, I didnt mean it literally

Not really, as long as my partner is happy with what we do, then it doesn't matter if I'm in a single role instead of moving between them.

Preferably, as I would love to keep things fun. That said, not everyone is up to the task and I wouldn't mind being one end or the other ultimately. Sometimes a good coin flip can decide if we're both.

i’m dating a submissive and i’m pretty happy with leaning dominant for our relationship ^_^ we’ve worked out ways to feed my submissive side without making her take more control than what she’s comfortable with

Depends on the kinda person, really. Though I do like the idea of subning mostly, and only getting to dom as a treat.

i think most people don’t have full on bdsm scenes every single time they have sex so it shouldn’t be a problem realistically

I feel like I could be a sub for the rest of my life if I am in a good relationship. I love the occasional time to be dominant but it’s not a necessity for me.

I remember my last partner was a switch. I asked him this to cuz it was a serious relationship and we were both super kinky and even pretty vanilla sex my natural instinct is more dominant so to a lot of people even that would be kinky just cuz I like taking charge and… back to topic

Anyways it didn’t really come up as an issue cuz if you have the right partner, they’ll put you in the right mood for being submissive/dominant. Though I did find it hot when he tried to be more dominant

Been with a switch before, I am a switch. We didnt always fall into the same feelings so it worked pretty well. If we both where feeling dominant, we just worked with it. Other then that, thats only a small part of the relationship

Ya know that actually sounds really hot, awesome, and nice. It gives me a bit more hope. Thank you for sharing that!

Though sometimes when we both felt dom, we got into the closest we ever got to hate sex. But that just may have been an us problme