Say_Yes_Sir said:
The problem I've been having is I get a "girl" to do some actual sex chatting and then they inevitably reveal that they're just a gay dude "role playing" as a girl. It's frustrating as hell and it's also kind of weird that this is considered a normal part of RP culture and not a non consensual, dishonest way for gay men to trap straight men into their fantasies of being dominated.
This is most common complaint I've heard is that the Doms are too unoriginal, but the subs are too shy and finicky about actually being subs. Finding women that actually want to do things in order to orgasm instead of just a creative writing exercise is quite difficult.
A creative writing exercise is way closer to what I'm looking for. Also why are you specifying gay men? Guys that are straight do the same thing, roleplaying as women in order to actually see some fantasy play out. It's really weird how you're making it a gay thing when it isn't.
Other than that brain-dead comment, plenty of insightful comments here, thank you kindly. It could also be the kinks I have and the way I personally RP and plot things out pushing guys away who would be fun to talk to and maybe RP with. Though with as wide a net as I've had over my ten years RPing, very few masculine lads have been worthy catches. It's, without a doubt, a big part of the way I do things, but I still feel bad not having fun with a large group of people I really love.