So I've recently entered the dating scene and it's got me wondering. I know we're all horny little lads and lasses here, but how actually important is sex to you in a relationship?

I personally get in moods where I get absolutely ravenous for days at a time, only to be sometimes followed up with being perfectly fine going multiple days or even a couple weeks without particularly intense urges.

Would you sacrifice good sex for an amazing partner? Or would you stay with someone who was otherwise pretty shitty if the sex was amazing?

No prior experience needed, asking more for the mentality of the subject than anything else.

I'd rather have a loving wife than a slut. Being bad in bed would be a non-issue.

Yeah, sex is cool, but have you ever actually been able to bond with someone and been able to see yourself several years down the line together? Sex is just a bonus

not very important, although i sometimes get horny im not gonna go begging to have sex with my partner. i just actually spend time with them and just chill or something

Sex is dope but I really wouldn't mind being with a partner who's not very good at it, although what does being bad at sex mean for you? Because like really 80 percent of being "good at sex" is mentality and compatibility.

Thing is- you can improve at sex, the more experience you have, the more you communicate with your partner about what they like, etc. But suddenly becoming a way better romantic partner? Very hard. Alot of people choose not to change out of their ways meaning if your dating a guy whos shitty he’s probably still gonna be shitty in 5 years.

All that just goes to show that having a great partner is better than any kind of sex, nothing can beat genuine fulfillment and connection

Even if we never had sex at all, I'd still choose to have a happy relationship with someone. I still have the option of jerking off to deal with my horniness, but it's a lot more difficult to find a work around to a shitty partner.

I'd rather have a partner, although sex is an important aspect, i think you can get better doing it, so no worries if my partner is bad, she'll get better eventually.

I have, or at least tried to. We were so in sync in every other way I thought I could compromise on the sex part to make it work but ultimately I just couldn't do it.


I have, for far longer than I should've, with my first ex. You live, you learn. There is a direct cause and effect correlation between a couple of the neuroses I have today and the time I spent in that relationship.

Ultimately you have to find a balance between Good Person and Good Lay. Although those are two separate qualities that should not be mutually exclusive, in my experience it is dang near impossible to find someone who is both.

Honestly I'm pretty proud of most of the answers here, if this was a test, most of you would have passed. Except you, Lothar, I'm sorry to say you fail. Better luck next time.

It's easy to have lofty goals and standards when you're working on theory alone. At least I'm honest about my real-world failures, and I've learned from each relationship and made every effort not to make the same mistakes twice. The problem is, poison can come in a wide variety of pretty bottles and bad people frequently get away with being bad because they're also very charismatic. My first ex definitely had some seriously asshole-y ways about him, but he also had a knack for being incredibly charming just when you were ready to break up with him.

I get you, reality isn't so easy sometimes and I'm sorry you had go through that. Sounds like your old partner was kind of manipulative. I'm glad you were able to get away from them and found or will find someone who treats you better.

I’d say sex is a very important factor, even if it’s not happening daily. You can talk all you want, but sex helps a relationship. If there’s nothing happening, I doubt the relationship will last.
I’d give anything for ho-hum, lousy sex with someone who loves me and has supermodel looks.

If you think about it long enough, your life is just as the same without sex.

I haven't had sex in forever. It's not worth the baggage.